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nda_roxybabe
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:be-you-tiful: or w/e the heck your name is
"I had to interject....THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH ASKING FOR MONETARY GIFTS FOR YOUR WEDDING. This celebration is about you and your fiance' not the person who bring a gift. What is the difference in your going to a registry to pick out a gift and simply asking for cash. Money is still required. Different nationalities WILL NOT do a registry. For instance Chaldeans ALWAYS get envelopes with thousands of dollars in them. It isn't what you do but how you do it. Below I have provided a subtle way to ask for monetary gifts. Feel free to customize to your liking:
We have enough dishes and towels for two,
So we have a special favor to ask of you.
To save you shopping and buying a present
A financial blessing would really be pleasant.
No matter how big, no matter how small
It's the thought that counts, we recognize it all.
We truly hope our request is ok,
For this would truly make our day
So when we decide to buy something new,
We can say it was all thanks to you!!!
May I add that this was the invite to a high profile personality.... I hope this helps and CONGRATS!"
Really, no. It's not ok, even a cheesy little poem doesn't make it okay.
We have enough dishes and towels for two,
So we have a special favor to ask of you.
To save you shopping and buying a present
A financial blessing would really be pleasant.
No matter how big, no matter how small
It's the thought that counts, we recognize it all.
We truly hope our request is ok,
For this would truly make our day
So when we decide to buy something new,
We can say it was all thanks to you!!!
May I add that this was the invite to a high profile personality.... I hope this helps and CONGRATS!"
Really, no. It's not ok, even a cheesy little poem doesn't make it okay.
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Re: :be-you-tiful: or w/e the heck your name is
Their weddings are kind of over the top elaborate too. Full length sequin gowns, 2 foot tall centerpieces. My best friend has been living with a Chaldean guy for years and she posts pics of the weddings.
And although I love my Chaldean boys back home...they very much so remind me of a Jersey Shore cast with lots of cash.
It still rude, doesn't matter who you are or who you sent the invite to, it still makes you greedy to mention a gift, monetary or otherwise on an invitation.
For the idiot that didn't have enough sense to google it....you should have because when God make WHITES, BLACKS, ect...He made CHALDEANS you F'n JERK! I look at all of you and think....poorly educated...lack of character and maturity...marriage wont last long! By the way, you PEOPLE shouldn't be so NARROW minded. There is more to life then chatting and arguing on a wedding site. Wow...you have just shown the world how happily married, engaged, attached you are. YOUR NOT!
that is all.
July 10, 2010
Planning Bio
[QUOTE]Oh yeah. I grew up in Detroit which is full of Chaldeans. They are pretty much all in Detroit area and San Diego. And while I don't know about thousands, I do know they give hundreds and hundreds. Their weddings are HUGE....500 people plus and it is completely customary to give envelopes of cash. I am sure the poem is unnecessary though, as it is customary. Their weddings are kind of over the top elaborate too. Full length sequin gowns, 2 foot tall centerpieces. My best friend has been living with a Chaldean guy for years and she posts pics of the weddings. And although I love my Chaldean boys back home...they very much so remind me of a Jersey Shore cast with lots of cash.
Posted by saschaduran[/QUOTE]
"Never Argue with an Idiot, They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
[QUOTE]Say it with me B E A U T I F U L...but Be YOU while being beautiful you idiot! My name is Dee...wow you have so much to say and I look at your pic and I clearly SEE you look like you sound....a back woods, country hill billy, piece of poor white trash that brings cheap gifts to weddings that dont even cover the cost of your plate you LAME ASS WHITE GIRL who needs an entourage of other poor white trash cheerleaders. WOW!. You wouldn't survive at my wedding sweety just based on the cheesy outfit you have on! Get a life!!! Chaldeans....they are a race like WHITE...BLACK...INDIAN. Geeesh. For the idiot that didn't have enough sense to google it....you should have because when God make WHITES, BLACKS, ect...He made CHALDEANS you F'n JERK! I look at all of you and think....poorly educated...lack of character and maturity...marriage wont last long! By the way, you PEOPLE shouldn't be so NARROW minded. There is more to life then chatting and arguing on a wedding site. Wow...you have just shown the world how happily married, engaged, attached you are. <strong>YOUR NOT!</strong>
Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]
My not what?
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
[QUOTE] <strong><u>I look at all of you and think....poorly educated</u></strong>...lack of character and maturity...marriage wont last long! By the way, you PEOPLE shouldn't be so NARROW minded. There is more to life then chatting and arguing on a wedding site. Wow...you have just shown the world how happily married, engaged, attached you are. <strong><u>YOUR NOT!
</u></strong>Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]
Not to be the grammar police, but oh, the irony....
July 10, 2010
Planning Bio
"Never Argue with an Idiot, They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
You're the best.
Married Bio
But clearly, I am the jerk here.
[QUOTE]Say it with me B E A U T I F U L...but Be YOU while being beautiful you idiot! My name is Dee...wow you have so much to say and I look at your pic and I clearly SEE you look like you sound....a back woods, country hill billy, piece of poor white trash that brings cheap gifts to weddings that dont even cover the cost of your plate you LAME ASS WHITE GIRL who needs an entourage of other poor white trash cheerleaders. WOW!. You wouldn't survive at my wedding sweety just based on the cheesy outfit you have on! Get a life!!! Chaldeans....they are a race like WHITE...BLACK...INDIAN. Geeesh. For the idiot that didn't have enough sense to google it....you should have because when God make WHITES, BLACKS, ect...He made CHALDEANS you F'n JERK! I look at all of you and think....poorly educated...lack of character and maturity...marriage wont last long! By the way, you PEOPLE shouldn't be so NARROW minded. There is more to life then chatting and arguing on a wedding site. Wow...you have just shown the world how happily married, engaged, attached you are. YOUR NOT!
Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>You have way too much anger and hatred, and honestly - this comes across as racist to me. Take it easy, please. </div><div>
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Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
I am glad somebody knows what a Chaldean is. As for the weddings that I have actually attended....I have seen as much as 10,000 given to a bride and groom. Africans also give money to their bride and groom. If it is so tacky I guess I would just need someone to explain to me WHY are gift cards and Visa gift cards are created.
[QUOTE]Say it with me B E A U T I F U L...but Be YOU while being beautiful you idiot! My name is Dee...wow you have so much to say and I look at your pic and I clearly SEE you look like you sound....a back woods, country hill billy, piece of poor white trash that brings cheap gifts to weddings that dont even cover the cost of your plate you LAME ASS WHITE GIRL who needs an entourage of other poor white trash cheerleaders. WOW!. You wouldn't survive at my wedding sweety just based on the cheesy outfit you have on! Get a life!!! Chaldeans....they are a race like WHITE...BLACK...INDIAN. Geeesh. For the idiot that didn't have enough sense to google it....you should have because when God make WHITES, BLACKS, ect...He made CHALDEANS you F'n JERK! I look at all of you and think....poorly educated...lack of character and maturity...marriage wont last long! By the way, you PEOPLE shouldn't be so NARROW minded. There is more to life then chatting and arguing on a wedding site. Wow...you have just shown the world how happily married, engaged, attached you are. YOUR NOT!
Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]
Hahahahah I look back woods? That is something I have never heard.
"Never Argue with an Idiot, They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
July 10, 2010
Planning Bio
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: :be-you-tiful: or w/e the heck your name is : Hahahahah I look back woods? That is something I have never heard.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]
All those woods that are in Phoenix. It's where the hillbillies hide because you can't even find the woods! Bet that man in your picture is your second cousin huh?
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
[QUOTE]Sweety I do aplologize to all parties envolved...take a peak at the pics...I have been married to the same man for 10 YEARS!!! Boo to you! We are actually renewing our vows. Shame on you. We have 2 children and a dog...and now a thorn in my a**....YOU! Get a life.
Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]
envolved? Is that like evolving?
Shame on me for what? For actually having tact and manners?
I have a wonderful life here in the backwoods of Phoenix
J&K- 1st cousing actually. I heard thats acceptable for the backwoods of phoenix though.
[QUOTE]Sweety I do aplologize to all parties envolved...take a peak at the pics...I have been married to the same man for 10 YEARS!!! Boo to you! We are actually renewing our vows. Shame on you. We have 2 children and a dog...and now a thorn in my a**....YOU! Get a life.
Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]
So if you're having a vow renewal, why would you assume that your guests would be giving you thousands of dollars. Didn't they do that 10 years ago when you got married the first time?
[QUOTE]Yeah I didn't expect a MAN to be on a wedding site arguing an invalid point with a bunch of women. I didnt expect such rude behavior and responses on a FREAKIN WEDDING WEBSITE. My husband wouldn't dare. Whose wearing the panties at your house....or are you wearing a thong. HAHAHAHAHA
Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]
You are ridiculous. I am wearing a thong though, hanky panky. Thanks for asking.
2. 2 kids? Who the f cares.
3. a dog...this makes you a happily ever after, super classy person? Sh!t I've got 2 dogs, I must be Class to the Max!
BTW, gotta love those "Picture People" studio pictures you're showing off. Honestly, they've got some bonefied sheet backgrounds. Wow, I'm impressed.
"Never Argue with an Idiot, They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
[QUOTE]Yeah I didn't expect a MAN to be on a wedding site arguing an invalid point with a bunch of women. I didnt expect such rude behavior and responses on a FREAKIN WEDDING WEBSITE. My husband wouldn't dare. Whose wearing the panties at your house....or are you wearing a thong. HAHAHAHAHA
Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]
I sure hope that you aren't raising your children to speak to virtual strangers this way.
[QUOTE]And I have one here....I've been to Pheonix and I knew asshole exist but I actually met some really nice people there...You wasn't amongst the crowd because it was very upscale.
Posted by Be-you-tiful 1[/QUOTE]
I wasn't was I?
Regardless, this is entertaining. Be-you, you have be-you-tiful pictures. It's a shame your inner beauty overshadows the outer.