What do you wear to weddings?

jenna8984

I attended a wedding on Saturday and I wore what I always do- a knee length colored dress with a blazer and tights since it's still winter here. My friend wore the same thing. At dinner she was pointing out all the women wearing really tight/ short dresses and she was commenting about how inappropriate they were for a wedding. She even bashed the little black dress and said "Save it for the bar sweetie, that's not wedding attire". I kind of agree with her, I mean I don't mind the black so much but the really short dresses with no tights I don't really find appropriate. Do you agree or do you think my style is just too modest?

(talking about a standard dinner/ dancing time & venue)

huskypuppy14

jenna8984 said:

I attended a wedding on Saturday and I wore what I always do- a knee length colored dress with a blazer and tights since it's still winter here. My friend wore the same thing. At dinner she was pointing out all the women wearing really tight/ short dresses and she was commenting about how inappropriate they were for a wedding. She even bashed the little black dress and said "Save it for the bar sweetie, that's not wedding attire". I kind of agree with her, I mean I don't mind the black so much but the really short dresses with no tights I don't really find appropriate. Do you agree or do you think my style is just too modest?

(talking about a standard dinner/ dancing time & venue)

LBD are my go to wedding attire. How short are we talking? I don't think I've ever worn tights to a wedding since I was a kid. Now that I'm over 30, I try to keep my dresses knee length though.

peachy13

For weddings I attend in warm weather, I think most of the women including myself are wearing short dresses without tights (I mean short like knee-length or just above knee, not super inappropriate short). There was one wedding I went to last year where one of my friends wore a floor-length dress and it stirred up some side eye from other guests. 

blabla89

My style is pretty modest in general (because I'm way too self-conscious for short skirts and tight dresses) but rarely do I pay all that much attention to what other people are wearing. I may give it a passing glance and think, "man, I could never pull off that outfit" but that's about it.

I don't own a whole lot of dresses so I cycle through them for weddings. In the fall/winter it's a sheath dress with a statement necklace, in the spring/summer it's a chiffon maxi dress or a pastel sheath dress.

labro

That sounds really covered up to me, but I also live in Georgia and I've never attended a winter or cool season wedding anywhere where it actually gets for real cold.

Usually I wear some sort of knee length or shorter A-line cocktail dress in a solid color or print. I'll wear sheer hose sometimes but I don't think that's the same thing as tights.

jenna8984

huskypuppy14 said:

jenna8984 said:

I attended a wedding on Saturday and I wore what I always do- a knee length colored dress with a blazer and tights since it's still winter here. My friend wore the same thing. At dinner she was pointing out all the women wearing really tight/ short dresses and she was commenting about how inappropriate they were for a wedding. She even bashed the little black dress and said "Save it for the bar sweetie, that's not wedding attire". I kind of agree with her, I mean I don't mind the black so much but the really short dresses with no tights I don't really find appropriate. Do you agree or do you think my style is just too modest?

(talking about a standard dinner/ dancing time & venue)

LBD are my go to wedding attire. How short are we talking? I don't think I've ever worn tights to a wedding since I was a kid. Now that I'm over 30, I try to keep my dresses knee length though.

Like this. I kind of consider this too short.

VulgarGirl

Well I live in the desert. So I rarely go to weddings and wear tights and I don't really own a blazer...

Typically I'll wear a cocktail dress and heels. Unless I don't feel like wearing a dress. Then I'll wear some slacks and a cute top. And often with bare legs. Cause I'm a rebel.

ETA:

I'd totally wear something like this to a wedding.

Or even this with some accessories

Maybe this for an evening wedding:

Or even this:

But probably not this:

Or this:

Unless the couple was really into leather probably not this either:

novella1186

The last wedding I went to, I wore a cobalt blue dress that was just about knee length. It was a-line and sleeveless with a higher neckline, and I wore flats because we walked a few blocks from our hotel to the venue. 

I would definitely not wear something like this: 

I think for a wedding, it's too much boobs and too tight for me, but I tend to dress a bit more modest anyway. Ever since my boobs grew I've been way more self-conscious about showing too much. 

sarawifenow

I agree with PPs how short are we talking here?

 

I never wear tights. They bug me. My go to wedding attire is either a short (mid-thigh to knee length) dress or a maxi dress depending on the formality of the wedding.

 

ETA: I saw the pic you posted after I posted my reply. I don't think that those dresses are too short. I wouldn't wear it because I would be self concious, but I wouldn't side eye it.

jenna8984

I consider this to be the ideal outfit but maybe that's just me? lol

Maggie0829

I have attended a lot of weddings.  Most have taken place in the evening so I go with a cocktail dress and heels.  I have been to a few afternoon weddings so I went with a more casual sun dress and wedges.  The only time I have ever dressed down for a wedding was one that took place outside in a horse field.  It was hot as hell so I wore a cotton maxi dress with my hair up and a pair of flat sandals.

I never wear tights/hose when I get dressed up.  They are uncomfortable and make my feet slip out of my shoes.  And all of my cocktail dresses are knee length to lower thigh.

If I were to attend a winter wedding I would wear the same thing as I usually do but put on a nice dress coat so that I don't freeze while walking into the venue.

littlepep

It depends on the wedding really. I do wear tights and/or a cardigan if it's in the winter because I'm a little bitch when it comes to cold weather.

In the summer, I usually wear some sort of dress but the dressiness depends on the location. 

As a short person, I tend not to wear anything knee length because it makes me look stumpy, but I definitely don't wear anything where there is a concern I might flash people

lovegood90

I usually wear some sort of cocktail dress or sundress if it's a casual summer wedding. If it's chillier I'll wear some sort of blazer or something over it and tights too.

I generally am not the type to wear super tight, revealing clothing regardless of the occasion though. But I do see how it can look a bit odd if people are dressed provocatively at a wedding, however to each their own. (As long as they're not disrespecting any attire rules at a religious location ie church).

ElcaB

I typically wear a knee-length dress & heels with a wrap, or a maxi dress with dressy sandals for more casual daytime weddings. I agree that it's inappropriate to dress like you're going to "da club" for a wedding. What's the point?

I only wear tights when it's freezing. I once read that women should free their legs for as long as they can tolerate, so I do. Tights are the devil. 

VulgarGirl

jenna8984 said:

huskypuppy14 said:

jenna8984 said:

I attended a wedding on Saturday and I wore what I always do- a knee length colored dress with a blazer and tights since it's still winter here. My friend wore the same thing. At dinner she was pointing out all the women wearing really tight/ short dresses and she was commenting about how inappropriate they were for a wedding. She even bashed the little black dress and said "Save it for the bar sweetie, that's not wedding attire". I kind of agree with her, I mean I don't mind the black so much but the really short dresses with no tights I don't really find appropriate. Do you agree or do you think my style is just too modest?

(talking about a standard dinner/ dancing time & venue)

LBD are my go to wedding attire. How short are we talking? I don't think I've ever worn tights to a wedding since I was a kid. Now that I'm over 30, I try to keep my dresses knee length though.

Like this. I kind of consider this too short.

That's the length of like 90% of my dresses. Though I wouldn't wear a sparkly dress and sparkly shoes. One sparkle takes from the other sparkle.

chibiyui

I usually wear knee length or above the knee.

I side eye the club wear at weddings. I get it if your like, under 25, but after that you've got no excuse. That said, I do find it, obnoxious clothing shopping finding fun, youthful clothes that aren't too clubbishor ridiculously over priced.

And get off my lawn you damn kids.

thisismynickname2

I think a wedding is more a place for modesty. Close to knee length, easy on the cleavage, easy on the tightness. Classy. 

I read a rule once: don't show off more than two of your three assets at the same time. (Boobs, belly, legs.) I like that rule. 

VulgarGirl

jenna8984 said:

I consider this to be the ideal outfit but maybe that's just me? lol

This dress looks like the same lenghth as the other dresses though....I can't tell but I don't think her knees are up that high.

I have a dresses that are "barley cover your booty" length. I totally rock those at clubs/bars. No shame. But I wouldn't wear them to a wedding. But mid-thigh? No problem.

PrettyGirlLost

jenna8984 said:

huskypuppy14 said:

jenna8984 said:

I attended a wedding on Saturday and I wore what I always do- a knee length colored dress with a blazer and tights since it's still winter here. My friend wore the same thing. At dinner she was pointing out all the women wearing really tight/ short dresses and she was commenting about how inappropriate they were for a wedding. She even bashed the little black dress and said "Save it for the bar sweetie, that's not wedding attire". I kind of agree with her, I mean I don't mind the black so much but the really short dresses with no tights I don't really find appropriate. Do you agree or do you think my style is just too modest?

(talking about a standard dinner/ dancing time & venue)

LBD are my go to wedding attire. How short are we talking? I don't think I've ever worn tights to a wedding since I was a kid. Now that I'm over 30, I try to keep my dresses knee length though.

Like this. I kind of consider this too short.

That length is fine, there is nothing scandalous or inappropriate about those dresses.  Their asses and hello kitties aren't hanging out.

I think you and your friend are too up tight

PrettyGirlLost

jenna8984 said:

I consider this to be the ideal outfit but maybe that's just me? lol

That dress is hitting her mid-thigh. . . just like the dresses you posted as being too short.

I'm small up top, so those type of dresses make me look really frumpy and lost.

Personally I always wear panty hose with dresses, but that's because i have spider veins.  If I had my 20 year old legs I'd likely not wear hose to a summer wedding.

NowIamMrsKlein

I tend to wear shorter dresses simply because I am short. Anything too long and I tend to get stumpy looking. However if I'm showing my legs, the rest is covered. My go-to winter dress is flowy A-line on the shorter side, but its also got 3 quarter length lace sleeves.

A dress I bought for an upcoming spring wedding is also a flowy short Aline (a theme perhaps?) But it has a high neckline (no cleavage at all) and short cap sleeves.

lovegood90

PrettyGirlLost said:

jenna8984 said:

huskypuppy14 said:

jenna8984 said:

I attended a wedding on Saturday and I wore what I always do- a knee length colored dress with a blazer and tights since it's still winter here. My friend wore the same thing. At dinner she was pointing out all the women wearing really tight/ short dresses and she was commenting about how inappropriate they were for a wedding. She even bashed the little black dress and said "Save it for the bar sweetie, that's not wedding attire". I kind of agree with her, I mean I don't mind the black so much but the really short dresses with no tights I don't really find appropriate. Do you agree or do you think my style is just too modest?

(talking about a standard dinner/ dancing time & venue)

LBD are my go to wedding attire. How short are we talking? I don't think I've ever worn tights to a wedding since I was a kid. Now that I'm over 30, I try to keep my dresses knee length though.

Like this. I kind of consider this too short.

That length is fine, there is nothing scandalous or inappropriate about those dresses.  Their asses and hello kitties aren't hanging out.

I think you and your friend are too up tight

Agreed. I can see how the sparkly material and sparkly heels wouldn't scream "wedding appropriate," but if this dress was in some kind of neutral I bet no one would think anything of it.

theartistformerlyknownas

Those dresses don't seem too short to me at all. I agree with the rule of showing off 2 things at a time - you don't want cleavage, legs, tight, open back all at once. Short, blousy dress with a high neckline and open back? Sure. Tight dress with some boob action? Should be a little longer.

I would find it much more weird to wear a blazer to a wedding. This is a party; not a court hearing.

novella1186

jenna8984 said:

I consider this to be the ideal outfit but maybe that's just me? lol

This is a lot like the blue dress I was talking about. 

Here, I'll just post a picture. We were on our way out the door, and FI said "Hey, pose and make a bitch face!" so that's what's happening here. But this was my wedding guest attire: 

Maggie0829

My feeling is if your ass and your boobs are covered (meaning they don't make any surprise appearances through the night) then you are good.  So if you bend over and I can tell what color thong you are wearing then your dress is most likely too short, or you should learn not to bend over in it.

thespeshulestsnowflake

This is what I wore to the last wedding I went to, though I'm pretty sure I wore my neon heels:

I don't think it was too short, plus the bride did compliment the dress.

JCbride2015

Depending on th formality of the wedding, I'd either wear a long gown or a short dress like the sparkly ones you posted. No tights. I don't think that's inappropriate.

MairePoppy

Mostly, I see LBD and other cocktail dresses at weddings. I usually wear a cocktail dress. My short and tight days are over.

I don't think the dresses you're showing are too short, but I do think they're too sparkly. The purple dress is fine, but I'd ditch the tights and wear dressy shoes.

levioosa

I think if a dress looks like it belongs at a Vegas club, it's inappropriate. I don't think the length was necessarily off in the pictures you posted though.  Basically MagicInk's pics of appropriate vs not appropriate were spot on to me. 

jenna8984

lolo883 said:

Those dresses don't seem too short to me at all. I agree with the rule of showing off 2 things at a time - you don't want cleavage, legs, tight, open back all at once. Short, blousy dress with a high neckline and open back? Sure. Tight dress with some boob action? Should be a little longer.

I would find it much more weird to wear a blazer to a wedding. This is a party; not a court hearing.

lol, well mine was hot pink with the sleeves rolled a little. Definitely not a "work" looking blazer. And it was freezing, a girl at my table left her coat on the whole night.

jenna8984

MagicInk said:

jenna8984 said:

I consider this to be the ideal outfit but maybe that's just me? lol

This dress looks like the same lenghth as the other dresses though....I can't tell but I don't think her knees are up that high.

I have a dresses that are "barley cover your booty" length. I totally rock those at clubs/bars. No shame. But I wouldn't wear them to a wedding. But mid-thigh? No problem.

Oh. Maybe I can't tell by the picture but to me it seems like 1-2 inches above her knee, compared to the others that seem 6-8 inches above the knee. But I guess a lot of you have no problem with that so it's just me lol