What do you wear to weddings?

PrettyGirlLost

arrippa said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

I tend to wear cardigans to indoor weddings during the summer. The ac is usually blasting and no one ever knows how to turn it off or they refuse because other people are warm. There has been many times where I would go outside in the blazing sun to warm up before going back to the reception. I also always bring a cardigan to the movie theaters since those are usually cold too.

This.

I freeze my ass off in AC.  Everyone else is comfortable.  I always have a sweater or something with me when I go out to dinner, fly, go to the movies, go to work, go to weddings, etc.

princessgracekelly

STARMOON44 said:

princessgracekelly said:

I usually wear blazers/cardigans to weddings, even to the one I went to last year in FL in June. Most dresses I wear to weddings are spaghetti-strap or strapless and the blazer or cardigan gives me peace of mind that all bra elements are covered up. I also make sure my skirt reaches my fingertips. Maybe I'm just a fuddy-duddy.

I'm not sure wearing a dress with risk of bra showing counts as fuddy-duddy. I wear strapless bras or dresses that properly cover a real bra.

I wear strapless bras with strapless dresses, of course, but the dresses tend to slip down in the back and suddenly my bra clasp is exposed. Anyone have any tips to prevent this? I'm not sewing-talented enough to sew cups into a dress, and I tend to sweat away the stickiness of fashion tape.

levioosa

I am always cold.  It's a good thing I live where I do, because I'm that jerk in a sweater when it's 80 out.  I can go a whole evening indoors and never take off my sweater or cardigan. 

PrettyGirlLost

princessgracekelly said:

STARMOON44 said:

princessgracekelly said:

I usually wear blazers/cardigans to weddings, even to the one I went to last year in FL in June. Most dresses I wear to weddings are spaghetti-strap or strapless and the blazer or cardigan gives me peace of mind that all bra elements are covered up. I also make sure my skirt reaches my fingertips. Maybe I'm just a fuddy-duddy.

I'm not sure wearing a dress with risk of bra showing counts as fuddy-duddy. I wear strapless bras or dresses that properly cover a real bra.

I wear strapless bras with strapless dresses, of course, but the dresses tend to slip down in the back and suddenly my bra clasp is exposed. Anyone have any tips to prevent this? I'm not sewing-talented enough to sew cups into a dress, and I tend to sweat away the stickiness of fashion tape.

Fashion tape.  Or have the top properly tailored so it fits without slipping.

theartistformerlyknownas

princessgracekelly said:

STARMOON44 said:

princessgracekelly said:

I usually wear blazers/cardigans to weddings, even to the one I went to last year in FL in June. Most dresses I wear to weddings are spaghetti-strap or strapless and the blazer or cardigan gives me peace of mind that all bra elements are covered up. I also make sure my skirt reaches my fingertips. Maybe I'm just a fuddy-duddy.

I'm not sure wearing a dress with risk of bra showing counts as fuddy-duddy. I wear strapless bras or dresses that properly cover a real bra.

I wear strapless bras with strapless dresses, of course, but the dresses tend to slip down in the back and suddenly my bra clasp is exposed. Anyone have any tips to prevent this? I'm not sewing-talented enough to sew cups into a dress, and I tend to sweat away the stickiness of fashion tape.

Either your bra or your dress (or both) doesn't fit.

PrettyGirlLost

I have no boobs and getting my dresses fitted is the only thing that allows me to wear strapless dresses, honestly.

Maggie0829

princessgracekelly said:

STARMOON44 said:

princessgracekelly said:

I usually wear blazers/cardigans to weddings, even to the one I went to last year in FL in June. Most dresses I wear to weddings are spaghetti-strap or strapless and the blazer or cardigan gives me peace of mind that all bra elements are covered up. I also make sure my skirt reaches my fingertips. Maybe I'm just a fuddy-duddy.

I'm not sure wearing a dress with risk of bra showing counts as fuddy-duddy. I wear strapless bras or dresses that properly cover a real bra.

I wear strapless bras with strapless dresses, of course, but the dresses tend to slip down in the back and suddenly my bra clasp is exposed. Anyone have any tips to prevent this? I'm not sewing-talented enough to sew cups into a dress, and I tend to sweat away the stickiness of fashion tape.

It is called using a tailor.

jenna8984

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

Have you ever worked at a restaurant or venue? Rule #1 don't turn the heat up because for that one cold asshole, you'll have 59 people who are too hot come bitch at you.

PrettyGirlLost

jenna8984 said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

Have you ever worked at a restaurant or venue? Rule #1 don't turn the heat up because for that one cold asshole, you'll have 59 people who are too hot come bitch at you.

Why the hell am I an asshole just because I'm cold?!

Fuck those 59 people.

jenna8984

PrettyGirlLost said:

jenna8984 said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

Have you ever worked at a restaurant or venue? Rule #1 don't turn the heat up because for that one cold asshole, you'll have 59 people who are too hot come bitch at you.

Why the hell am I an asshole just because I'm cold?!

Fuck those 59 people.

Lol I know- I'm the cold one too!! I don't know why everyone is so fucking warm All the time!

themuffinman16

PrettyGirlLost said:

themuffinman16 said:

pinkrevenge said:

I'd have to see how short we're talking. And personally, a LBD is always the right choice. I think the no black at weddings rule is outdated and silly.

But spotting the girl who is just a little too sexy at a wedding is one of my favorite past times. There's always at least one girl who wears a dress that's too short, or heels that are too high, or has on a little too much makeup, or does a fantastic combo of all three. Is it even a real wedding if there isn't someone wearing a hoochie outfit to a wedding?

I do this too. As someone who used to be a dancer, I see people wearing things to weddings I would have only worn at that job.

Like this?





Oh wait, you didn't mean you were a ballet dancer.  :-P

LMFAO. Hilarious!

novella1186

PrettyGirlLost said:

jenna8984 said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

Have you ever worked at a restaurant or venue? Rule #1 don't turn the heat up because for that one cold asshole, you'll have 59 people who are too hot come bitch at you.

Why the hell am I an asshole just because I'm cold?!

Fuck those 59 people.

I'm always that one cold asshole. Everyone else will be talking about how pleasant and great it is, or complaining that it's a bit too warm, and I'm like "What?! I'm freezing!" 

The other day my friend stopped by my desk just to say "Holy shit why is it so hot in this office?!" And I just looked around really confused because for once I wasn't shivering and I loved it. 

levioosa

PrettyGirlLost said:

jenna8984 said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

Have you ever worked at a restaurant or venue? Rule #1 don't turn the heat up because for that one cold asshole, you'll have 59 people who are too hot come bitch at you.

Why the hell am I an asshole just because I'm cold?!

Fuck those 59 people.

I lol'd.  One of our #1 lies at the restaurant I used to work at was that we turned down the air when we never touched the thermostat.

What gets me are the people who know they're always cold and who never bring a sweater.  Being cold is the number one reason I almost always wear pants.  The same goes for people who are hot but won't take off their sweater.  My Dad does this.  It will be winter and really chilly, he'll get into the car with a thick sweater on, and then he'll complain that he's so hot he's going to throw up when I turn on the heater.  Take off your fucking jacket before you get into the car then.  Everyone else is freezing and you know you're going to be hot. 

amelisha

I think most of you would side-eye me hard for my wedding attire, because I don't remember the last time I went to a (non-work) evening/cocktail event without my cleavage out.



a) I wear a 28FF/H so my cleavage is pretty much up to my collarbone and visible in pretty much everything but a crew neck; and

b) Wearing stuff with a high neck makes me feel frumpy and look ten pounds heavier thanks to the wall o'boob; and

c) FI loves it a lot and him thinking I look great makes it easier for me not to hate how I look.


*shrug* I don't usually wear super short skirts because I favour those 50s shapes that often hit a little below the knee, but I don't really care if other people do. It's not the office, wear what you feel good in, your boss isn't there...

princessgracekelly

The more I think about it, the common denominator in my strapless dresses is that they have smocked elastic in the back, like this:

That's why they're slipping, doy. I think I'm going to funnel any funds I'd spend tailoring them into just buying better strapless dresses.

I'm still probably going to wear blazers and cardigans to weddings. Haters gonna hate.

STARMOON44

princessgracekelly said:

STARMOON44 said:

princessgracekelly said:

I usually wear blazers/cardigans to weddings, even to the one I went to last year in FL in June. Most dresses I wear to weddings are spaghetti-strap or strapless and the blazer or cardigan gives me peace of mind that all bra elements are covered up. I also make sure my skirt reaches my fingertips. Maybe I'm just a fuddy-duddy.

I'm not sure wearing a dress with risk of bra showing counts as fuddy-duddy. I wear strapless bras or dresses that properly cover a real bra.

I wear strapless bras with strapless dresses, of course, but the dresses tend to slip down in the back and suddenly my bra clasp is exposed. Anyone have any tips to prevent this? I'm not sewing-talented enough to sew cups into a dress, and I tend to sweat away the stickiness of fashion tape.

Safety pin your dress to your bra or get it tailored.

novella1186

amelisha said:

I think most of you would side-eye me hard for my wedding attire, because I don't remember the last time I went to a (non-work) evening/cocktail event without my cleavage out.



a) I wear a 28FF/H so my cleavage is pretty much up to my collarbone and visible in pretty much everything but a crew neck; and

b) Wearing stuff with a high neck makes me feel frumpy and look ten pounds heavier thanks to the wall o'boob; and

c) FI loves it a lot and him thinking I look great makes it easier for me not to hate how I look.


*shrug* I don't usually wear super short skirts because I favour those 50s shapes that often hit a little below the knee, but I don't really care if other people do. It's not the office, wear what you feel good in, your boss isn't there...

The way you described all that made me picture Joan from Mad Men who's one of the most gorgeous women on earth, so now I'm super jealous of you. 

I'm a D but the rest of me is tiny so sometimes it's hard to keep the girls totally covered. I just wouldn't wear something that's cut down to my bellybutton so when people first glance at me they immediately think BOOBS! 

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levioosa

pinkrevenge said:

novella1186 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

jenna8984 said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

Have you ever worked at a restaurant or venue? Rule #1 don't turn the heat up because for that one cold asshole, you'll have 59 people who are too hot come bitch at you.

Why the hell am I an asshole just because I'm cold?!

Fuck those 59 people.

I'm always that one cold asshole. Everyone else will be talking about how pleasant and great it is, or complaining that it's a bit too warm, and I'm like "What?! I'm freezing!" 

The other day my friend stopped by my desk just to say "Holy shit why is it so hot in this office?!" And I just looked around really confused because for once I wasn't shivering and I loved it. 

My favorite is when a doctor says that and you're in a paper dress with your teeth chattering. Fuck you, Dr. Six layers.

I have a space heater for my desk.  When it gets too unbearably cold I turn it on.  I have to be careful though, or it heats up more than my little space and people start to freak out. 

amelisha

@novella1186, I only wish I could look like her, but I'm otherwise petite as well and I look pretty boobs-on-a-stick most of the time, which is one reason for all the a-line and wiggle dresses in the vintage shapes - they are so good at creating a more balanced hourglass. And if people think it's too sexy, well, whatever, at least I don't feel huge and gross and miserable in my party clothes, I guess. I'm not trying to wear stuff cut down to my navel or anything, but if anyone's great-grandma is offended by my crossover v-necks or whatever then I'm sorry but I'm also not to wear a muumuu to everything or spend the whole evening feeling like I look like hell in a boob-squishing, high-necked bodice.

arrippa

levioosa said:

pinkrevenge said:

novella1186 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

jenna8984 said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

Have you ever worked at a restaurant or venue? Rule #1 don't turn the heat up because for that one cold asshole, you'll have 59 people who are too hot come bitch at you.

Why the hell am I an asshole just because I'm cold?!

Fuck those 59 people.

I'm always that one cold asshole. Everyone else will be talking about how pleasant and great it is, or complaining that it's a bit too warm, and I'm like "What?! I'm freezing!" 

The other day my friend stopped by my desk just to say "Holy shit why is it so hot in this office?!" And I just looked around really confused because for once I wasn't shivering and I loved it. 

My favorite is when a doctor says that and you're in a paper dress with your teeth chattering. Fuck you, Dr. Six layers.

I have a space heater for my desk.  When it gets too unbearably cold I turn it on.  I have to be careful though, or it heats up more than my little space and people start to freak out. 

I have one under my desk too. I have it going year round and it blows the hot air right on my feet. It's awesome.

jenna8984

arrippa said:

levioosa said:

pinkrevenge said:

novella1186 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

jenna8984 said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

Have you ever worked at a restaurant or venue? Rule #1 don't turn the heat up because for that one cold asshole, you'll have 59 people who are too hot come bitch at you.

Why the hell am I an asshole just because I'm cold?!

Fuck those 59 people.

I'm always that one cold asshole. Everyone else will be talking about how pleasant and great it is, or complaining that it's a bit too warm, and I'm like "What?! I'm freezing!" 

The other day my friend stopped by my desk just to say "Holy shit why is it so hot in this office?!" And I just looked around really confused because for once I wasn't shivering and I loved it. 

My favorite is when a doctor says that and you're in a paper dress with your teeth chattering. Fuck you, Dr. Six layers.

I have a space heater for my desk.  When it gets too unbearably cold I turn it on.  I have to be careful though, or it heats up more than my little space and people start to freak out. 

I have one under my desk too. I have it going year round and it blows the hot air right on my feet. It's awesome.

As we speak, mine is on too!

wandajune6

I pretty much always wear a solid color sleeveless cocktail dress that's around knee length. I have a few LBDs, a navy dress that I adore but isn't fitting quite right at the moment, and an emerald green that I pull out when I can. I also have a handful of floral dresses that I pull out for the rare daytime wedding or other event. I usually get cold so I'll bring a wrap. They're great for cold churches or until I have enough alcohol/dancing to get warmed up. I also have a black cardigan with pretty beading on the front (very 50's-ish, I think) that I'll pull out when it's going to be cold. I went to an outdoor wedding a few years during the summer and froze so I'm a bit careful.

I tend to pair simple dresses with great accessories. I'm a fan of statement necklaces, fun purses, and heels that may be a bit short but allow me to dance all night.

DH's family is all about the color and bling. We have a wedding coming up and SIL told me that my standard black dresses will make me look like I'm in mourning. I just bought this and hope it will work. I showed her the link after I ordered it and she still thinks it's a boring color but it's a lot for me. (She's not a jerk, it's a cultural difference- at Mexican family parties, only the grammas wear black and everyone else where's loud colors and flashy jewelry.)

I've always associated blazers with work so it would never occur to me to wear one to a wedding. I wear lots of black tights but they're predominantly for more casual outfits.

novella1186

amelisha said:

@novella1186, I only wish I could look like her, but I'm otherwise petite as well and I look pretty boobs-on-a-stick most of the time, which is one reason for all the a-line and wiggle dresses in the vintage shapes - they are so good at creating a more balanced hourglass. And if people think it's too sexy, well, whatever, at least I don't feel huge and gross and miserable in my party clothes, I guess. I'm not trying to wear stuff cut down to my navel or anything, but if anyone's great-grandma is offended by my crossover v-necks or whatever then I'm sorry but I'm also not to wear a muumuu to everything or spend the whole evening feeling like I look like hell in a boob-squishing, high-necked bodice.

Yeah, I would never side-eye someone like that because I (somewhat) understand the struggle of trying not to show too much boob. I mean when you're bigger-chested the cleavage is just there whether you want it to be or not. I think it would be different if you were wearing a mega push-up bra with something super low to purposely show off the girls (and if someone wants to do that then cool, go ahead, but if it's WAY over the top I might side-eye it at a wedding) 

But the outfits you're describing sound really classic and pretty  

littlepep

PrettyGirlLost said:

arrippa said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

I tend to wear cardigans to indoor weddings during the summer. The ac is usually blasting and no one ever knows how to turn it off or they refuse because other people are warm. There has been many times where I would go outside in the blazing sun to warm up before going back to the reception. I also always bring a cardigan to the movie theaters since those are usually cold too.

This.

I freeze my ass off in AC.  Everyone else is comfortable.  I always have a sweater or something with me when I go out to dinner, fly, go to the movies, go to work, go to weddings, etc.

Me too. I will sometimes bring a cardigan for the church because that's usually cold. Once I hit the reception though, I warm up pretty quickly between wine/dancing. 

Most of the time though, I leave the cardigan at home and just steal FI's jacket. He always takes it off at the reception so if I get cold as we're leaving, I'll wear that to the car. 

littlepep

levioosa said:

I am always cold.  It's a good thing I live where I do, because I'm that jerk in a sweater when it's 80 out.  I can go a whole evening indoors and never take off my sweater or cardigan. 

I'm such a diva about temperature. Anything below 75 is far too cold for me.

sarahufl

I am always freezing, so count me on the cardigan list. Even if I don't actually wear it, I always have one. I have also worn tights to a wedding!

I try and wear something with sleeves if I think it will even be remotely cold.

Bubblegum5586

I almost always wear a mid-thigh dress. My legs are long so it's hard to find knee length. Also I am pretty small chested so I am never showing cleavage! 

Last wedding I went to I actually posted about it here with a picture of my dress (CLICK HERE!). It was mid thigh and open backed but high neckline.

At my wedding a good friend wore a mid thigh tight sequined gold dress. I remembered thinking WOW that is a showy dress but she looked great and rocked it. Nothing was going to fall out though so it was totally fine!

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vikinganna87

I got this dress for my brother's wedding in 2003 and have worn it to every summer wedding since then, except for the times I was in the bridal party.  [I actually get a little sad if I'm a bridesmaid because I can't wear my 'wedding' dress]

As for 'appropriate' wedding attire, as with most situations it really depends on the context.  Context of how you're wearing the dress and what company you're in.  A supertight, short dress can make one woman look sexy and classy and another look like a tartlet. Weddings are awesome people-watching opportunities. I agree that a diversity of formal wear is fun and entertaining.  I almost prefer observing tackiness to observing a dull de-facto uniform where all the women essentially look the same.