What do you wear to weddings?

princessofgenovia

What I wear to the office I would never wear to a wedding. Because I can dress fairly casually at work.

Today I'm wearing a cute little sundress and wedge sandals. It'd have to be a very casual wedding for me to wear this to a wedding.

So office wear really varies office to office and industry to industry.

cupcait927

amelisha said:

I'm home sick, so I'm gonna show you guys a couple of my usual wedding-guest dresses (with my sweatpants underneath...) Boobs akimbo, side-eye away.

You are adorable! Boobs look fantastic and I am absolutely in LOVE with that floral dress.

jenna8984

JCbride2015 said:

jenna8984 said:

Uh, what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with an LBD at weddings. In fact, it's a pretty sure bet. And I haven't worn tights to a wedding/event since I was like 5. Apparently I am uber-inappropriate.

None of those dresses that you posted strike me as too short (although I tend to wear them longer, but only because I am uncomfortable with my body right now. Otherwise I would totally rock them to a wedding) or in any way inappropriate at all. I'm just going to go ahead and be that asshole and say that the OP feels pretty slut shame-y (in terms of clothing) to me.

No that wasn't my intention. Like I said earlier, I honestly thought that work attire was the same thing as evening attire. So in my mind if it's too short for work it would be too short for weddings. I thought that was reserved for clubs/ bars. But clearly I have just found out that I've been doing eveningwear wrong my entire life lol.

I am genuinely confused by this view.  Where did you get that idea?  I've always heard, "If you are wearing the same shoes/dress/whatever to both work and out at night, you're doing one of those outfits wrong."  Either you look too casual/ sexy at the office, or you look too frumpy when you go out (general you).

Different occasions call for different outfits.

I don't know- I suppose my mother. She wore basically the exact outfit I posted to both my wedding and my brother's wedding. She wears $50 TJ Maxx dresses and blazers to everything so I guess that's probably where I learned that it was both a work outfit and a wedding outfit.

Plus the weddings around here are all held in antique barn-type banquet halls- we've never been to one that had like fountains and marble floors and crab legs. So I guess I assumed the ones I attend aren't on that level of "formalwear".

amelisha

You are all too nice and my flu-y gross self appreciates it. The floral dress is I think from pinupgirlclothing.com - it's a brand called Stop Staring. I think they have lots of stuff that's not toooo costume-y and looks nice with non-vintage hair and makeup.

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STARMOON44

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

plainjane0415

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

Why?

PrettyGirlLost

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

beachyone15

I wore this to a wedding last weekend --



All black? No fucks given.

KytchynWitche

So, the three weddings I've attended as an adult... I've never worn a short dress. I wore a long skirt-suit to my sister's first wedding, pants and a tunic to her second wedding, and my bridesmaid dress for my bff's wedding was tea-length. I did not wear tights with any of the outfits.

That said, in general I live by the "One T" rule, which goes like this: Tits, tummy, or thighs, there can be only one. Obviously tits in this case = cleavage, not the full on boob-splosion. So a short dress, to me, is fine as long as you're not also showing rack and/or belly. Likewise, a deep-v neck is fine provided the skirt is longer. Personally I think tummy should never be on display for a wedding, no matter how "in" cut-outs and crops are, but that may just be me.

I'm fairly certain there was at least one short dress with no leggings at our wedding, but it was a casual affair and summer.

But seriously, know your crowd, and take your cues from the invite. (That's a general you, not a specific, BTW.)

princessofgenovia

I don't want to wear white to my own wedding....so I probably wouldn't wear to other people's. But I'll totally wear black. I look good in black.

littlepep

PrettyGirlLost said:

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

My mom keeps asking me about MOB dresses and she was so worried about whether it was too light. I was like no one is going to think you're the bride.

That said, I don't ever wear white to a wedding. I would just feel weird doing it. 

arrippa

beachyone15 said:

I wore this to a wedding last weekend --



All black? No fucks given.

Is that from Modcloth? If so, I have it in purple. I love the dress and I would totally wear the black color to a wedding.

beachyone15

arrippa said:

beachyone15 said:

I wore this to a wedding last weekend --



All black? No fucks given.

Is that from Modcloth? If so, I have it in purple. I love the dress and I would totally wear the black color to a wedding.

Yes! I just bought it and I love it. Was looking at the other colors but I was in need of a LBD anyway and figured I could dress this one up or down.

novella1186

littlepep said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

My mom keeps asking me about MOB dresses and she was so worried about whether it was too light. I was like no one is going to think you're the bride.

That said, I don't ever wear white to a wedding. I would just feel weird doing it. 

My mom said that the MOB and MOG are "supposed to wear neutral colors." And then she said that it's rude and silly for MOB or MOG to wear the same color as the bridesmaids. Um... why? I don't understand either of these things. I never knew it was (or used to be) a faux pas to wear black to a wedding either. I'd never heard of that before. I just knew you weren't really supposed to wear white. 

But hell my sister is pretty much wearing a wedding dress to my wedding and I don't care, so maybe all those style rules just don't mean much to me anyway. 

amelisha

I have a J Crew dress that's white with navy anchor print that I always want to wear to daytime summer weddings but I never do for fear of judgement. I heard a lot of crap when one of my friends wore a cream-coloured short lace dress to a wedding a few years ago and I've been terrified ever since Black, though, I've never heard anyone complain about.

STARMOON44

plainjane0415 said:

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

Why?

Because I've been taught that black is for funerals not weddings. And, it makes me look like death warmed over.

PrettyGirlLost

beachyone15 said:

arrippa said:

beachyone15 said:

I wore this to a wedding last weekend --



All black? No fucks given.

Is that from Modcloth? If so, I have it in purple. I love the dress and I would totally wear the black color to a wedding.

Yes! I just bought it and I love it. Was looking at the other colors but I was in need of a LBD anyway and figured I could dress this one up or down.

I have he purple one saved to my favorites :-)

STARMOON44

PrettyGirlLost said:

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

I mean, yeah, but plenty of brides are wearing more casual white dresses now, and I don't necessarily know that before I go. Just seems like srsly you really couldn't find anything else?

ashley8918

STARMOON44 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

I mean, yeah, but plenty of brides are wearing more casual white dresses now, and I don't necessarily know that before I go. Just seems like srsly you really couldn't find anything else?

But, like, who cares? Everyone knows who the bride is.

jenna8984

The wedding this past weekend, the groom came over to greet the table at the reception (don't know where the bride was) and he said "Bride is pissed. Her aunt wore a white dress- that is just wrong, doesn't that bitch know white is only for the bride?!" And literally all of us at the table were like "um, who? where?" We looked around and could not even find this woman wearing white. So clearly it's aa stupid thing to be mad about, she certainly didn't steal any thunder when we all couldn't even locate her.

Maggie0829

I don't wear all white to weddings because 1) I don't want to deal with people talking shit about me (a dress is just not worth the hassle), 2) because I am guaranteed to drop something on myself, most likely a fork full of pasta covered in red sauce, and 3) because I think I look much better in a color.

princessofgenovia

STARMOON44 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

I mean, yeah, but plenty of brides are wearing more casual white dresses now, and I don't necessarily know that before I go. Just seems like srsly you really couldn't find anything else?

What if the bride doesn't wear white? I'd like to find a purple gown for my wedding. Does that mean none of my guest can wear purple? 

I never really got this rule because if you have a groom the groom will probably wear a suit, in one of like 5 colors at most. Chances are someone else is also going to wear a suit in one of those 5 colors. No one worries about a guest matching a groom. But heaven help them if they wear the same color the bride is wearing. This just reinforces the "it's the bride's day!" idea that is such bullshit.

PrettyGirlLost

ashley8918 said:

STARMOON44 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

I mean, yeah, but plenty of brides are wearing more casual white dresses now, and I don't necessarily know that before I go. Just seems like srsly you really couldn't find anything else?

But, like, who cares? Everyone knows who the bride is.

Amen.

It's just a color.  Everyone could wear white and everyone would still know who the bride is, so why in the hell do other women care if another guest wears white?

We tell brides all the time- "You can't dictate guest attire."  That means color- including white.  That means other guests need to stahp this crap.

Women just need to stop judging other women for this.

FiancB

I usually get something from Rent the Runway. I usually wear shorter, tighter stuff- not trying to pick up dudes, I'm just on the curvier side and other things look like some sort of mumu on me. 

Things I've worn:

They weren't that short on me since I'm not tall like a model, but yeah I definitely show knees to mid thigh all the time. 

vikinganna87

@amelisha  Love your dresses!  Where is your duvet from?!  It looks familiar.. (and Swedish)

littlepep

novella1186 said:

littlepep said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

STARMOON44 said:

Oh and I never wear black to weddings. Or white. Black doesn't bother me on other people but white is a major eye roll.

My mom keeps asking me about MOB dresses and she was so worried about whether it was too light. I was like no one is going to think you're the bride.

That said, I don't ever wear white to a wedding. I would just feel weird doing it. 

My mom said that the MOB and MOG are "supposed to wear neutral colors." And then she said that it's rude and silly for MOB or MOG to wear the same color as the bridesmaids. Um... why? I don't understand either of these things. I never knew it was (or used to be) a faux pas to wear black to a wedding either. I'd never heard of that before. I just knew you weren't really supposed to wear white. 

But hell my sister is pretty much wearing a wedding dress to my wedding and I don't care, so maybe all those style rules just don't mean much to me anyway. 

Yeah I do not understand the black thing. I've worn it to an evening wedding. I wouldn't during the daytime, but mostly because I think black seems more formal. 

PrettyGirlLost

Didn't it used to be a thing that everyone wore white to weddings?  Like back when, Queen Victoria was it, started the white bride trend?

Because wasn't the point of wearing white to say,

badbnagdway

jenna8984 said:

The wedding this past weekend, the groom came over to greet the table at the reception (don't know where the bride was) and he said "Bride is pissed. Her aunt wore a white dress- that is just wrong, doesn't that bitch know white is only for the bride?!" And literally all of us at the table were like "um, who? where?" We looked around and could not even find this woman wearing white. So clearly it's aa stupid thing to be mad about, she certainly didn't steal any thunder when we all couldn't even locate her.

The white thing is interesting to me. Realistically, there is no way that a guest will really be stealing the thunder of the bride. At the same time, I do think it's not that hard to wear any color except for all white to a wedding. 

littlepep

Maggie0829 said:

I don't wear all white to weddings because 1) I don't want to deal with people talking shit about me (a dress is just not worth the hassle), 2) because I am guaranteed to drop something on myself, most likely a fork full of pasta covered in red sauce, and 3) because I think I look much better in a color.

As a red wine drinker and a certified clutz, this is my main reason for not wearing white. Wedding or not.