What do you wear to weddings?

VulgarGirl

I'm always hot and you always cold people who want to turn off the AC or turn on heat piss me off.

I can't get naked in public without it being an "incident" so how the fuck am I supposed to cool off because you refuse to let me run the AC at anything below 80 because your delicate ass is freezing.

emmaaa

I usually wear some type of cocktail dress and heels. I wore tights to a wedding last November with booties with a pretty short (short for me) dress.

The pictures you posted didn't seem too short for most people (like the models). My booty and hips would never work in a dress that tight and short. Nope, not going to happen. 

I know we're all super judge-y about certain things and it is human nature to judge people based on appearances, but why? Why is this something that even matters? Unless they are showing their nipples or vagina, so what? I wouldn't wear certain "scandalous" things but so what if some people do? Does someone's clothing to a wedding somehow tell you how good of a person they are? (This isn't directed to you necessarily, Jenna. We all do it. I do too, I just wish we didn't, that's all).

princessgracekelly

MagicInk said:

I'm always hot and you always cold people who want to turn off the AC or turn on heat piss me off.

I can't get naked in public without it being an "incident" so how the fuck am I supposed to cool off because you refuse to let me run the AC at anything below 80 because your delicate ass is freezing.

I'm Team Permanently-Cold, but honestly it is wayyy easier on everyone for me to put on more clothes than it is for Team Perma-Hot people to take clothes off.

PrettyGirlLost

I think I'm going to get a space heater for my desk in the lab.  The Thermostat is at 72 and my hands and nose are like ice.

theartistformerlyknownas

sarahufl said:

I am always freezing, so count me on the cardigan list. Even if I don't actually wear it, I always have one. I have also worn tights to a wedding!

I try and wear something with sleeves if I think it will even be remotely cold.

A long-sleeved cocktail dress is a lot more reasonable to me than a cardigan at a formal event. I don't think people should suffer and be cold, but cardigans are super casual to me, and blazers are too business-y. IDK.

beachyone15

I'm surprised that so many people talk about being cold at weddings. For me at least, it's always been a room packed with 100+ people, dancing, and drinking wine. If anything, I'd be peeling OFF layers.

Now my office, on the other hand, is like the polar tundra.

sarahufl

lolo883 said:

sarahufl said:

I am always freezing, so count me on the cardigan list. Even if I don't actually wear it, I always have one. I have also worn tights to a wedding!

I try and wear something with sleeves if I think it will even be remotely cold.

A long-sleeved cocktail dress is a lot more reasonable to me than a cardigan at a formal event. I don't think people should suffer and be cold, but cardigans are super casual to me, and blazers are too business-y. IDK.

I should add that I don't think I have been to any event that could even be considered remotely "super formal" in YEARS. I would not wear a cardigan to those. I like wraps.

A few years ago I was wearing a super awesome sequin dress to a fancy holiday party with H and I needed a black wrap- 5 bucks on the sidewalk in NYC!!

PrettyGirlLost

MagicInk said:

I'm always hot and you always cold people who want to turn off the AC or turn on heat piss me off.

I can't get naked in public without it being an "incident" so how the fuck am I supposed to cool off because you refuse to let me run the AC at anything below 80 because your delicate ass is freezing.

I dunno but I can only put on so many layers before I have to just wear a coat at work. . . and then my hands and nose are still cold.  And then I have to change to go home because it's too hot outside for all the layers.

The hospital is too fucking cold.  I'm sick of being cold at work all.year.long.  It's never comfortable.

thisismynickname2

lolo883 said:

sarahufl said:

I am always freezing, so count me on the cardigan list. Even if I don't actually wear it, I always have one. I have also worn tights to a wedding!

I try and wear something with sleeves if I think it will even be remotely cold.

A long-sleeved cocktail dress is a lot more reasonable to me than a cardigan at a formal event. I don't think people should suffer and be cold, but cardigans are super casual to me, and blazers are too business-y. IDK.

I have a ton of cardigans. DH calls me Mr. Rogers. I have plain black, soft cardigans that pair perfectly with tons of dresses. I'd rather pop on a cardigan than risk sweating or freezing even in in a long sleeve dress.  Just call me the queen of layering. 

Also there are fancy blazers out there that are jazzy, not businessey. A 3/4 sleeve, cropped blazer looks great over a strapless dress. 

Maggie0829

I have a space heater under my desk as well.  I pretty much run it all year.  My feet are always cold, even in the dead of summer.

The only bad thing is that sometimes I get halfway home and then freak out that I forgot to turn it off.  So I drive back to the office only to see that I did, in fact, turn it off.  I just don't want to be the reason that my office building burns down.

theartistformerlyknownas

sarahufl said:

lolo883 said:

sarahufl said:

I am always freezing, so count me on the cardigan list. Even if I don't actually wear it, I always have one. I have also worn tights to a wedding!

I try and wear something with sleeves if I think it will even be remotely cold.

A long-sleeved cocktail dress is a lot more reasonable to me than a cardigan at a formal event. I don't think people should suffer and be cold, but cardigans are super casual to me, and blazers are too business-y. IDK.

I should add that I don't think I have been to any event that could even be considered remotely "super formal" in YEARS. I would not wear a cardigan to those. I like wraps.

A few years ago I was wearing a super awesome sequin dress to a fancy holiday party with H and I needed a black wrap- 5 bucks on the sidewalk in NYC!!

I've only been to one "formal" wedding where long dresses were the expectation, but still anything cocktail dress or higher is too formal to me for a cardigan.

novella1186

PrettyGirlLost said:

I'm always hot and you always cold people who want to turn off the AC or turn on heat piss me off.

I can't get naked in public without it being an "incident" so how the fuck am I supposed to cool off because you refuse to let me run the AC at anything below 80 because your delicate ass is freezing.

I dunno but I can only put on so many layers before I have to just wear a coat at work. . . and then my hands and nose are still cold.  And then I have to change to go home because it's too hot outside for all the layers.

The hospital is too fucking cold.  I'm sick of being cold at work all.year.long.  It's never comfortable.


Yep I have a bunch of cute work-appropriate dresses and skirts that I've never worn to this office because in the summer it's like 50 degrees in the office, so I have to bundle up, even if it's 105 outside. 

In the winter it's like 50 degrees in the office, so I have to bundle up. Layers, layers, layers. I even have to wear gloves at my desk sometimes because my hands turn purple from being so cold. 

I get so tired of being so fucking cold every day. 

princessofgenovia

To the last wedding I went to I actually wore my NYE dress. Which was a blue little sparkly number that hit about mid-thigh. Maybe a little shorter.

Long dresses just don't happen on me. I'm 5'10" with long legs. It's knee or shorter, or a maxi dress. Which I'm just not into. I like my legs.

I'm also fairly busty so I usually have the cleavage up and out cause why not? I mean I got them for free, I'm always about showing off a good deal.

My biggest thing is that I hate strapless bras, hate them. So I'm always trying to find a dress I can wear a regular bra with.

I figure if it's a dress you'd wear in front of grandma, you can wear it to a wedding.

ashley8918

Uh, what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with an LBD at weddings. In fact, it's a pretty sure bet. And I haven't worn tights to a wedding/event since I was like 5. Apparently I am uber-inappropriate.

None of those dresses that you posted strike me as too short (although I tend to wear them longer, but only because I am uncomfortable with my body right now. Otherwise I would totally rock them to a wedding) or in any way inappropriate at all. I'm just going to go ahead and be that asshole and say that the OP feels pretty slut shame-y (in terms of clothing) to me.

plainjane0415

Maggie0829 said:

I have a space heater under my desk as well.  I pretty much run it all year.  My feet are always cold, even in the dead of summer.

The only bad thing is that sometimes I get halfway home and then freak out that I forgot to turn it off.  So I drive back to the office only to see that I did, in fact, turn it off.  I just don't want to be the reason that my office building burns down.

Same here!  I have an alarm set on my phone for 10 minutes before we close to remind me to turn it off.

princessgracekelly

lolo883 said:

sarahufl said:

I am always freezing, so count me on the cardigan list. Even if I don't actually wear it, I always have one. I have also worn tights to a wedding!

I try and wear something with sleeves if I think it will even be remotely cold.

A long-sleeved cocktail dress is a lot more reasonable to me than a cardigan at a formal event. I don't think people should suffer and be cold, but cardigans are super casual to me, and blazers are too business-y. IDK.

See, and to ME cardigans say "church" or "Sunday best" rather than "casual," which is probably why I reach for them when I go to weddings. My standard wedding outfit is cotton dress + cardigan + pearls + heels. All the weddings I've been to have been daytime summer weddings in the South, though.

theartistformerlyknownas

Maggie0829 said:

I have a space heater under my desk as well.  I pretty much run it all year.  My feet are always cold, even in the dead of summer.

The only bad thing is that sometimes I get halfway home and then freak out that I forgot to turn it off.  So I drive back to the office only to see that I did, in fact, turn it off.  I just don't want to be the reason that my office building burns down.

I mean there are worse things...

Maggie0829

plainjane0415 said:

Maggie0829 said:

I have a space heater under my desk as well.  I pretty much run it all year.  My feet are always cold, even in the dead of summer.

The only bad thing is that sometimes I get halfway home and then freak out that I forgot to turn it off.  So I drive back to the office only to see that I did, in fact, turn it off.  I just don't want to be the reason that my office building burns down.

Same here!  I have an alarm set on my phone for 10 minutes before we close to remind me to turn it off.

Ooh good idea.  I can't believe I never thought of setting up an outlook reminder or a reminder on my phone for this before.

climbingsingle

Maggie0829 said:

I have a space heater under my desk as well.  I pretty much run it all year.  My feet are always cold, even in the dead of summer.

The only bad thing is that sometimes I get halfway home and then freak out that I forgot to turn it off.  So I drive back to the office only to see that I did, in fact, turn it off.  I just don't want to be the reason that my office building burns down.

This is exactly my life. I one time drove to my office in my pajamas at 10PM to make sure I turned it off. 

lovegood90

MagicInk said:

I'm always hot and you always cold people who want to turn off the AC or turn on heat piss me off.

I can't get naked in public without it being an "incident" so how the fuck am I supposed to cool off because you refuse to let me run the AC at anything below 80 because your delicate ass is freezing.

THIS. You can always add, but you can only take away so much!

My SO drives me nuts with this. I'll be in shorts and a tank top and sweating, yet he'll complain he's freezing- well then choose one of the 5 blankets on our couch and shush.

littlepep

Maggie0829 said:

I have a space heater under my desk as well.  I pretty much run it all year.  My feet are always cold, even in the dead of summer.

The only bad thing is that sometimes I get halfway home and then freak out that I forgot to turn it off.  So I drive back to the office only to see that I did, in fact, turn it off.  I just don't want to be the reason that my office building burns down.

I do this with my straightener at home. I always think I left it on and turn back around. I'm so afraid of my house catching fire and my poor kitties being trapped inside. 

My BFF is actually so paranoid about leaving stuff on, she unplugs everything and then takes a picture of it each morning so she can check it later and ease her fear that she left it on. 

Maggie0829

climbingwife said:

Maggie0829 said:

I have a space heater under my desk as well.  I pretty much run it all year.  My feet are always cold, even in the dead of summer.

The only bad thing is that sometimes I get halfway home and then freak out that I forgot to turn it off.  So I drive back to the office only to see that I did, in fact, turn it off.  I just don't want to be the reason that my office building burns down.

This is exactly my life. I one time drove to my office in my pajamas at 10PM to make sure I turned it off. 

One Friday my H joked with me that I forgot to turn off my space heater.  Even though I knew I had turned it off I made myself believe that I wasn't sure.  Well being a sub-contractor I am not allowed in my office building without the main contractor being there (I swear my office building is locked up tighter then Fort Knox.  Why?  I have no idea because we really don't do anything that special).  So I had to go all weekend not knowing if I had turned it off.  I literally could not eat one day because I was so worried.  I broke out in hysterical sobs because I had made myself so anxious and worried.  And guess what?  Monday morning I went in and the damn thing had been off the whole freaking time.  H now knows to never joke about that ever again.

jenna8984

ashley8918 said:

Uh, what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with an LBD at weddings. In fact, it's a pretty sure bet. And I haven't worn tights to a wedding/event since I was like 5. Apparently I am uber-inappropriate.

None of those dresses that you posted strike me as too short (although I tend to wear them longer, but only because I am uncomfortable with my body right now. Otherwise I would totally rock them to a wedding) or in any way inappropriate at all. I'm just going to go ahead and be that asshole and say that the OP feels pretty slut shame-y (in terms of clothing) to me.

No that wasn't my intention. Like I said earlier, I honestly thought that work attire was the same thing as evening attire. So in my mind if it's too short for work it would be too short for weddings. I thought that was reserved for clubs/ bars. But clearly I have just found out that I've been doing eveningwear wrong my entire life lol.

amelisha

I'm home sick, so I'm gonna show you guys a couple of my usual wedding-guest dresses (with my sweatpants underneath...) Boobs akimbo, side-eye away.

JCbride2015

jenna8984 said:

Uh, what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with an LBD at weddings. In fact, it's a pretty sure bet. And I haven't worn tights to a wedding/event since I was like 5. Apparently I am uber-inappropriate.

None of those dresses that you posted strike me as too short (although I tend to wear them longer, but only because I am uncomfortable with my body right now. Otherwise I would totally rock them to a wedding) or in any way inappropriate at all. I'm just going to go ahead and be that asshole and say that the OP feels pretty slut shame-y (in terms of clothing) to me.

No that wasn't my intention. Like I said earlier, I honestly thought that work attire was the same thing as evening attire. So in my mind if it's too short for work it would be too short for weddings. I thought that was reserved for clubs/ bars. But clearly I have just found out that I've been doing eveningwear wrong my entire life lol.


I am genuinely confused by this view.  Where did you get that idea?  I've always heard, "If you are wearing the same shoes/dress/whatever to both work and out at night, you're doing one of those outfits wrong."  Either you look too casual/ sexy at the office, or you look too frumpy when you go out (general you).

Different occasions call for different outfits.

PrettyGirlLost

amelisha said:

I'm home sick, so I'm gonna show you guys a couple of my usual wedding-guest dresses (with my sweatpants underneath...) Boobs akimbo, side-eye away.

What is there to side eye?  Those are super cute!

I'm confused. . .

littlepep

amelisha said:

I'm home sick, so I'm gonna show you guys a couple of my usual wedding-guest dresses (with my sweatpants underneath...) Boobs akimbo, side-eye away.

Those are so cute! And I think your boobs look classy

Maggie0829

amelisha said:

I'm home sick, so I'm gonna show you guys a couple of my usual wedding-guest dresses (with my sweatpants underneath...) Boobs akimbo, side-eye away.

I kinda love that flowered dress.

novella1186

littlepep said:

I'm home sick, so I'm gonna show you guys a couple of my usual wedding-guest dresses (with my sweatpants underneath...) Boobs akimbo, side-eye away.

Those are so cute! And I think your boobs look classy

Totally agree with this! You look gorgeous! 

badbnagdway

My normal wedding attire is cut-off jorts, platform sparkle stripper shoes, and a flowy top, obvi. 

Unless the bride gives me a dress code, preferably via a cute poem that doesn't quite rhyme. "Roses are red, guests should wear blue, I'll be wearing a giant hat, and so should you."