What do you wear to weddings?

AddieCake

It depends what the people look like in the dress. A short or form fitting dress can be perfectly modest on one person, and on another, they can be busting out of it and look out of place.

doeydo

TBH I find the clingy short dresses to be incredible tacky and inappropriate for a wedding.  This is kinda what I mean:

To answer the question of what I wear to weddings when it is a bit cool out, I'd go with something more like this:

VulgarGirl

Maggie0829 said:

My feeling is if your ass and your boobs are covered (meaning they don't make any surprise appearances through the night) then you are good.  So if you bend over and I can tell what color thong you are wearing then your dress is most likely too short, or you should learn not to bend over in it.

Or just don't wear underwear! Can't know what color my thong is if I'm not wearing anything...

novella1186

doeydo said:

TBH I find the clingy short dresses to be incredible tacky and inappropriate for a wedding.  This is kinda what I mean:

To answer the question of what I wear to weddings when it is a bit cool out, I'd go with something more like this:

To me, that silver dress is way too short. 

thisismynickname2

jenna8984 said:

MagicInk said:

jenna8984 said:

I consider this to be the ideal outfit but maybe that's just me? lol

This dress looks like the same lenghth as the other dresses though....I can't tell but I don't think her knees are up that high.

I have a dresses that are "barley cover your booty" length. I totally rock those at clubs/bars. No shame. But I wouldn't wear them to a wedding. But mid-thigh? No problem.

Oh. Maybe I can't tell by the picture but to me it seems like 1-2 inches above her knee, compared to the others that seem 6-8 inches above the knee. But I guess a lot of you have no problem with that so it's just me lol

I also think length is age appropriate. I hate to say that though. I have athletic legs and could rock a mini if I wanted to (and still do in the summer, like a khaki mini with a t-shirt), but something about a really short sparkly strapless dress doesn't say "32 years old" to me. The last time I wore a really short and tight dress, it was black, and I paired it with black tights and booties. But, then again, I tend to be modest anyway. 

If a 30 or 40-something woman wore a mini skirt and had killer legs, I'd also expect her top to be very modest in order to have that balance I mentioned in my earlier post. Really though, women with great style and confidence can get away with pretty much anything at any age, I think. 

climbingsingle

I've never worn tights or a cardigan to a wedding. To me, THAT seems weird. 

I've worn short dress and long dresses. I tend to go for short because I am short. And knee-length dresses (IMO) can look frumpy, especially if you're short. I'd never attend a wedding with my ass hanging our, or with too much cleavage. But those short, sparkly dress don't seem to short for a wedding for me at all. I think your friend is a little uptight. 

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STARMOON44

A blazer and tights just doesn't feel at all appropriate for evening to me.

I typically wear a cocktail dress and either bare legs or sheer hose, heels, and if I'm concerned about being cold I'll add a wrap. I'm typically rocking my cleavage as an accessory but don't wear really short dresses because my legs are stubby. Or if it's very fancy a floor length gown. I rarely get invited to day time weddings but for those I usually wear some thing floral and garden partyish or a pretty winter dress. The only time I'd be wearing tights and a blazer would be for a daytime winter wedding.

ETA- if there's a church ceremony in the afternoon and then an evening reception after a gap, I prefer to wear a day dress to church and then go home/hotel and change in between.

southernbelle0915

Depends on the wedding of course. But I never do overly sexy for weddings. I have some off the shoulder, low back, or cleavage-y kind of things, but I don't own anything that's too much above the knee. I save the sexy stuff for dates with DH.

Basically, if I look in the mirror and have even a smidge of a second thought, I change. Same concept for work.

PrettyGirlLost

I wear cocktail dresses, usually black,  to formal evening weddings and statement heels or jewelry.  I always wear sheer or dark/black hose because as I said, I have spider veins.  I think once when I hated all my dresses in my closet I wore dress pants, heels, and a fancy blouse.

For daytime or less formal weddings I wear something floral or garden partyish, to quote Starmoon.  And I still wear hose.

I'm always cold so I always have a style appropriate sweater or coat with me.  I don't do wraps- I think they look frumpy and they aren't really warm.

 

jenna8984

For those who can't picture tights or blazer, this is what I wore. My picture came out really blurry because I was in a rush. Didn't have the heels on yet. It's still winter here so I don't find this out of the ordinary or "not evening" enough. ?

theartistformerlyknownas

jenna8984 said:

For those who can't picture tights or blazer, this is what I wore. My picture came out really blurry because I was in a rush. Didn't have the heels on yet. It's still winter here so I don't find this out of the ordinary or "not evening" enough. ?

IDK, I would wear that to work. Different industries though.

plainjane0415

huskypuppy14 said:

jenna8984 said:

I attended a wedding on Saturday and I wore what I always do- a knee length colored dress with a blazer and tights since it's still winter here. My friend wore the same thing. At dinner she was pointing out all the women wearing really tight/ short dresses and she was commenting about how inappropriate they were for a wedding. She even bashed the little black dress and said "Save it for the bar sweetie, that's not wedding attire". I kind of agree with her, I mean I don't mind the black so much but the really short dresses with no tights I don't really find appropriate. Do you agree or do you think my style is just too modest?

(talking about a standard dinner/ dancing time & venue)

LBD are my go to wedding attire. How short are we talking? I don't think I've ever worn tights to a wedding since I was a kid. Now that I'm over 30, I try to keep my dresses knee length though.

Ditto, if it's an evening wedding. If it's an afternoon wedding I will wear a color appropriate for the season type dress.  I haven't ever worn a long formal type dress to a wedding, but then again, I've never been invited to one that formal.

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katiekessler123

I usually wear a cocktail dress.  If it's winter I'd bring a wrap with me or wear a long sleeved dress. This winter I went to a wedding on a very cold day and I wore a navy blue lacy cocktail dress with long lacy sleeves.  I do usually wear shorter dresses bc I am short and they tend to not look overly short on me, and I like my legs from miles and miles of running each week.  If you've got it flaunt it, IMO.

STARMOON44

jenna8984 said:

For those who can't picture tights or blazer, this is what I wore. My picture came out really blurry because I was in a rush. Didn't have the heels on yet. It's still winter here so I don't find this out of the ordinary or "not evening" enough. ?

I think it's a really cute outfit that I'd wear to brunch. But that really doesn't matter- do you feel good in it? When you look around at a wedding are you standing out as being informally dressed?

themuffinman16

pinkrevenge said:

I'd have to see how short we're talking. And personally, a LBD is always the right choice. I think the no black at weddings rule is outdated and silly.

But spotting the girl who is just a little too sexy at a wedding is one of my favorite past times. There's always at least one girl who wears a dress that's too short, or heels that are too high, or has on a little too much makeup, or does a fantastic combo of all three. Is it even a real wedding if there isn't someone wearing a hoochie outfit to a wedding?

I do this too. As someone who used to be a dancer, I see people wearing things to weddings I would have only worn at that job. At one wedding, a woman wore those tight banded mini dresses. It just barely covered her ass. It made snooki's dress, above, seem like it was full length dress with a train. Oh yeah, and she wore a lime green thong.  I cannot even comment on the thong, because... wow.  Then she wore 6 inch nude platforms with spikes. Really? Really? You couldn't just wear nude platforms?  I think it is funny how many comments were made behind my back, for so many years, about my job, and I would never wear something that vulgar to a wedding.

What I wear to a wedding iis usually an a-line dress, a sundress (if it is a beach wedding), or calvin klein makes some really nice dresses that are sexy but still classy. My favorite dresses are one shoulder dresses, they are usually tight, but the hem comes to the knee (and it covers the girls).

VulgarGirl

lolo883 said:

jenna8984 said:

For those who can't picture tights or blazer, this is what I wore. My picture came out really blurry because I was in a rush. Didn't have the heels on yet. It's still winter here so I don't find this out of the ordinary or "not evening" enough. ?

IDK, I would wear that to work. Different industries though.

I'd wear it to court. Or if I wore to work everyone would as if I was going to court.

luckya23

jenna8984 said:

For those who can't picture tights or blazer, this is what I wore. My picture came out really blurry because I was in a rush. Didn't have the heels on yet. It's still winter here so I don't find this out of the ordinary or "not evening" enough. ?

I'm no fashionista, but I would wear that.

Just wanted to say I love your wall color and I bought those signs too, but FI nixed them :-(  He also nixed the sparklier version with His/hers :-( :-( :-(

climbingsingle

jenna8984 said:

For those who can't picture tights or blazer, this is what I wore. My picture came out really blurry because I was in a rush. Didn't have the heels on yet. It's still winter here so I don't find this out of the ordinary or "not evening" enough. ?

IMO, this is way too casual for an evening wedding. I'd wear this to a job interview maybe. (if it was a second interview and I knew they were a more casual office). 

AddieCake

That outfit doesn't say wedding attire to me.

princessgracekelly

I usually wear blazers/cardigans to weddings, even to the one I went to last year in FL in June. Most dresses I wear to weddings are spaghetti-strap or strapless and the blazer or cardigan gives me peace of mind that all bra elements are covered up. I also make sure my skirt reaches my fingertips. Maybe I'm just a fuddy-duddy.

theartistformerlyknownas

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

PrettyGirlLost

jenna8984 said:

For those who can't picture tights or blazer, this is what I wore. My picture came out really blurry because I was in a rush. Didn't have the heels on yet. It's still winter here so I don't find this out of the ordinary or "not evening" enough. ?

It's cute, but I think it's more suited to a brunch or daytime wedding.  It's not dressy enough, imo, for an evening wedding.

But if you felt comfortable in it and you don't feel underdressed or you don't care if you are, who cares?!

PrettyGirlLost

themuffinman16 said:

pinkrevenge said:

I'd have to see how short we're talking. And personally, a LBD is always the right choice. I think the no black at weddings rule is outdated and silly.

But spotting the girl who is just a little too sexy at a wedding is one of my favorite past times. There's always at least one girl who wears a dress that's too short, or heels that are too high, or has on a little too much makeup, or does a fantastic combo of all three. Is it even a real wedding if there isn't someone wearing a hoochie outfit to a wedding?

I do this too. As someone who used to be a dancer, I see people wearing things to weddings I would have only worn at that job.

Like this?





Oh wait, you didn't mean you were a ballet dancer.  :-P

redoryx

I haven't been to a wedding as a guest (versus bridal party) in so long I honestly can't remember what I last wore. I do have a wedding coming up and I was trying to figure out what to wear. The location is a swanky country club and starts at 5, though the invitation was a little too casual for what I would have anticipated for that. But I do have an black cocktail dress I bought on clearance, like, a year ago and haven't had an opportunity to wear so I think y'all have convinced me.

jenna8984

I always thought business attire was the same as wedding/ evening attire. I don't know, I've never owned any true "cocktail" dresses. I always just thought a work dress was an evening dress. In my mind "formal" is where you wear like satin and sequins, and I always thought a wedding wasn't that formal until you hit like black tie. Well god damnit, I feel like a fool and my life is ruined lol! In my defense, I never attended a wedding until I was 20 years old, so it's not like I had my mom dress me for any or look up to what she wore to any.

 

arrippa

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

I tend to wear cardigans to indoor weddings during the summer. The ac is usually blasting and no one ever knows how to turn it off or they refuse because other people are warm. There has been many times where I would go outside in the blazing sun to warm up before going back to the reception. I also always bring a cardigan to the movie theaters since those are usually cold too.

southernbelle0915

I think that outfit is cute, but it depends on the formality if the wedding. Standard issue, Saturday night wedding? Probably not dressy enough (IMHO).

But if it were a super casual reception that just happened to be in the evening - maybe at someone's house? Then yea. I'd rock it.

STARMOON44

princessgracekelly said:

I usually wear blazers/cardigans to weddings, even to the one I went to last year in FL in June. Most dresses I wear to weddings are spaghetti-strap or strapless and the blazer or cardigan gives me peace of mind that all bra elements are covered up. I also make sure my skirt reaches my fingertips. Maybe I'm just a fuddy-duddy.

I'm not sure wearing a dress with risk of bra showing counts as fuddy-duddy. I wear strapless bras or dresses that properly cover a real bra.

theartistformerlyknownas

arrippa said:

lolo883 said:

I don't understand the need for cardigans/blazers over dresses just because it's winter. Are you not indoors? Does the venue not have heat? Wear a coat, and then check it. If it's cold inside, freakin' ask someone to turn the heat up. I would have intense side-eye directed at anyone wearing an outdoor coat indoors at a wedding.

I tend to wear cardigans to indoor weddings during the summer. The ac is usually blasting and no one ever knows how to turn it off or they refuse because other people are warm. There has been many times where I would go outside in the blazing sun to warm up before going back to the reception. I also always bring a cardigan to the movie theaters since those are usually cold too.

I will occasionally throw on a cardigan for a morning/afternoon ceremony, especially at a church, but it's just the "it's winter so I must wear a sweater" thing that's throwing me. To me formal/evening = ditch the top layers. Any dress will look more casual with a cardigan over it.