AYG - Confessions - I Judge

DodgersBride

Yes as in July 16 2011. I honestly have to say that the secretary has to know the other people she added in. My sister found out yesterday when she was setting up her appointment with the priest to take in her witnesses. He told her I don't have you at the time i have a Quinceañera. I honestly thought she was going to faint.

We are waiting to hear back from them to see what they are going to do. The Quinceañera have put a deposit down for the same time as my sister. They are trying to figure out who will get the 12pm slot and who will have their mass done later on in the day.

The Mel and Todd Show

My parents live in a different state, and to get to them, I must cross a bridge.  This bridge has a toll.  For a period of three months or so, everytime I went through the toll and stopped to pay, the kindly attendant simply waved me through.  I started to think I was hot shiit.  I began to brag.  I told my parents ALL about it.  It became the first topic of conversation whenever I walked through their door- Hey, Mel, did you pay a toll today?  After several months of this, my mother and I went shopping together across state lines one day.  When crossing back over into her state, I looked at her in my passenger seat and said "Watch and learn, lady."  The attendant, as expected, waved me through.  I said "thank you," and he responded with "For what?  Your EZPass registered." 

My ex-husband's ezpass was in the center console.

This seems like a relevant story right now. 

ZombieNates

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[QUOTE]Also, I judge young women (and old ones for that matter) who have the following hairstyle: especially when the ponytail is less than 3 inches long and sticks out of the back of your head. It may look all pretty from the front with a headband, but it looks like a rats nest from the back from all the teasing. ANd if the pony is short, it looks like you forgot to finish fixing your hair. Seriously, buy another mirror and take a peek back there before you walk out of your house.  Also, it makes your head look misshapen (conehead anyone?), and that's just not pretty on anyone.  FTR. I see young people with this hairstyle all the time, dressed up (in church, job interviews, college tours) and I can't help but want to hand them a mirror and a comb. 
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

If you do it right, it shouldn't look like a rat's nest in the back.  But most people are lazy.

Rosie109

I love you Mel.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : Right, but you said you were polished when you showed up, not dressed unprofessionally. I get where you're going with this, I just thought it was a wee bit hypocritical to lash out at their hair, etc. when you don't want to be judged by the same criteria. Also, 24 IS young to many companies, so just because someone might not yet be sold on your brand new credentials doesn't necessarily make her an old hag.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Sometimes *I* feel too young to have a real job or be at a job interview and I'm 29. It's like, "whoa! What am I doing here? When did I become an adult? Will people take me seriously or will they realize I'm way too young for this?!"

But I agree that I would judge someone who showed up to a job interview dressed inappropriately. Better to be overdressed for a job interview, for sure.

jaycee7389

dodgers--That is awful! I know that a quinceanera is the celebration of your 15th birthday, and like a coming of age. Please explain the mass portion of it, I didn't know it had a religious component. Just curious.

The Mel and Todd Show

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[QUOTE]I love you Mel.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

Reciprocated. 

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]My parents live in a different state, and to get to them, I must cross a bridge.  This bridge has a toll.  For a period of three months or so, everytime I went through the toll and stopped to pay, the kindly attendant simply waved me through.  I started to think I was hot shiit.  I began to brag.  I told my parents ALL about it.  It became the first topic of conversation whenever I walked through their door- Hey, Mel, did you pay a toll today?  After several months of this, my mother and I went shopping together across state lines one day.  When crossing back over into her state, I looked at her in my passenger seat and said "Watch and learn, lady."  The attendant, as expected, waved me through.  I said "thank you," and he responded with "For what?  Your EZPass registered."  My ex-husband's ezpass was in the center console. This seems like a relevant story right now. 
Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]


Haha. That's awesome. How did you not see it there, for months?

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : Maybe I worded it a little bit strangely, I'll admit that.  I know I was wearing a very well fitted suit and heels and had my hair and makeup looking neat but not overdone.  This was an entry level position so my brand new credentials don't necessarily hurt me, either.  I just mentioned the 2 ladies' hair because I don't see the point in wearing a suit but having your hair look like you just rolled out of bed and didn't attempt to touch it.
Posted by bltata[/QUOTE]

Fair enough. I just thought your original post smacked of "these two old unkempt ladies were totally jealous of me because of I'm younger and prettier than they are." And you just never know what people are thinking when they see you, especially at a job interview when everything about you is being evaluated. But if you're hyperfocused on appearance, then chances are you'll probably assume others are too.

DodgersBride

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[QUOTE]That really sucks, Dodgers.  I hope everything works out for your sister.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

Thanks we were all pretty livid yesterday. I tried to be the calm rationally one but it was very hard. I told her that everything will be ok and that if needed be FI would contact his church and see what he can do if she needed a new ceremony location. We also told her we would take care of any extra invites that would need to be sent out if there is a change.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Dodgers, when is her reception? I don't know much about quinceanera planning, but I assume there's a reception? Are your sister's invitations out yet? Would the quince have invitations out yet?

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : If you do it right, it shouldn't look like a rat's nest in the back.  But most people are lazy.
Posted by ZombieNates[/QUOTE]
I wish I would have had the balls to break out my phone in mass on Easter, because there were 3 sitting in front of me, with pony tails barely long enough to stay back, sticking straight out from the holder. It was insanely ugly. But my mother would have killed me if she had seen my phone in church.. 

ZombieNates

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : I wish I would have had the balls to break out my phone in mass on Easter, because there were 3 sitting in front of me, with pony tails barely long enough to stay back, sticking straight out from the holder. It was insanely ugly. But my mother would have killed me if she had seen my phone in church.. 
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

I hate when I can't take pictures.  I mean, I'd feel awkward snapping a shot of anyone, but I want to SO many times :P. 

The Mel and Todd Show

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : Haha. That's awesome. How did you not see it there, for months?
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

It folds closed under the armrest, which I always have down for my arm.  And, until then, I thought an EZpass had to be in the window for it to register.  I had taken it down because it was my ex-husband's and it clearly would have been inappropriate for him to have been footing the bill for my tolls.  Apparently he eneded up doing so for a few months, anyway.  My mom hasn't let me live this one down yet. 

rubberdukky103

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : <strong>Sometimes *I* feel too young to have a real job or be at a job interview and I'm 29. It's like, "whoa! What am I doing here? When did I become an adult? Will people take me seriously or will they realize I'm way too young for this?!"</strong> But I agree that I would judge someone who showed up to a job interview dressed inappropriately. Better to be overdressed for a job interview, for sure.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

I'm a 22-year-old government employee. I get mistaken for a visitor or summer intern all the time. I completely understand the feeling-to-young part of this.

bltata

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : Fair enough. I just thought your original post smacked of "these two old unkempt ladies were totally jealous of me because of I'm younger and prettier than they are." And you just never know what people are thinking when they see you, especially at a job interview when everything about you is being evaluated. But if you're hyperfocused on appearance, then chances are you'll probably assume others are too.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]


Hey, I NEVER said I was prettier, just more polished.  Lots of women that are older than me are hotter than I am.  And this was just in the lobby.  The interview went really well when I was evaluated on the rest of me.  I guess I just have a tendency to assume that every aspect of me is being keenly focused upon in interviews, so I notice more about other people as well.  I'm probably in the wrong.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : Sometimes *I* feel too young to have a real job or be at a job interview and I'm 29. It's like, "whoa! What am I doing here? When did I become an adult? Will people take me seriously or will they realize I'm way too young for this?!" But I agree that I would judge someone who showed up to a job interview dressed inappropriately. Better to be overdressed for a job interview, for sure.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Me too, Mery. I'm 30 but people usually think I'm younger, and to many in my field age = competence so I've had my fair share of having to prove myself. I still feel like a kid at work too!

And I just realized that tata's old hags might have been fellow job candidates, which wasn't clear from her original post. It sounded like they were employees, but if not then that makes a difference.

ZombieNates

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : Thanks we were all pretty livid yesterday. I tried to be the calm rationally one but it was very hard. I told her that everything will be ok and that if needed be FI would contact his church and see what he can do if she needed a new ceremony location. We also told her we would take care of any extra invites that would need to be sent out if there is a change.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]
Wait, I think I missed something.  Your sister booked first, then someone double booked, and the church isn't sure who they're going to give the time slot to? Do they not have a record of your sister booking? Because if they do, how could they justify giving the slot to the Quiceanera?

DodgersBride

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[QUOTE]dodgers--That is awful! I know that a quinceanera is the celebration of your 15th birthday, and like a coming of age. Please explain the mass portion of it, I didn't know it had a religious component. Just curious.
Posted by jaycee7389[/QUOTE]

I didn't have one but they are common in our circle. I think and I may be wrong but I think the mass part is just sort of a blessing for the young girl who is now becoming a women. I assume it is to help guide her into womanhood. I

I may get flamed for this but I think that a wedding should take precedent over a Quinceañera, seeing as a wedding is a sacrament and a Quinceañera is not.
*I am not just saying this because of the current situation my sister is in*

jaycee7389

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : I didn't have one but they are common in our circle. I think and I may be wrong but I think the mass part is just sort of a blessing for the young girl who is now becoming a women. I assume it is to help guide her into womanhood. I <strong>I may get flamed for this but I think that a wedding should take precedent over a Quinceañera, seeing as a wedding is a sacrament and a Quinceañera is not.</strong> *I am not just saying this because of the current situation my sister is in*
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]

That is exactly what I was thinking which is why I asked to see if maybe it was more than just a blessing.

Blueyed228

I flame my uterus today. Hardcore.

I also flame myself for having my own little pity party and being sobbing Sally this morning.  And then i flame myself for talking about my uterus.

Its just one of those days I suppose.

bltata

Whoops, I guess I should have been clearer about the women I was speaking about being other candidates.  Although I've also been given the side-eye by employees as well, but I suppose that's a little more normal. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Sometimes I judge Quinceaneras. They're like mini weddings. Sometimes without the mini. They are SUPER over the top. I've had encounters with many "courts" (like the wedding party), usually as they are screaming while riding in hummer limos the girl's dad paid for. It seems like an excuse to be entitled.

bltata

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[QUOTE]I flame my uterus today. Hardcore. I also flame myself for having my own little pity party and being sobbing Sally this morning.  And then i flame myself for talking about my uterus. Its just one of those days I suppose.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]


Oh I HATE days that feel like that.  I hope you feel better!  Maybe a glass of wine tonight will help?

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : How did you miss that? That was the longest thread in TK history! There were over 1100 posts. 
Posted by Denise91980[/QUOTE]

I'll be honest, with work and everything else going on I miss a lot these days, so judge away woman! ;)

And thanks for having my back Jen. That Denise I tell ya. If I didnt love her so much I'd flame her.

sarabear23

I confess that after last night, I kind of feel like a shitty friend. My bff had her first boyfriend ever early this year (like, Jenuary I think) and it didn't end so well. She was really down about the whole thing, for weeks, almost months.So about 2 weeks ago, she met someone else, and she was happy, so I was happy for her. Well I guess they decided to be exclusive and the next day he told her he didn't want a relationship.
I honestly think she moved WAY too fast even after I told her I thought it would be a good idea to take it slow this time around since she moved too fast with the other jerk. So she texts me last night, and I knew she was sad, so we talked about it. I basically told her to stop crying over him, suck it up, and move on. I didn't know what else to say. I just feel like (another confession?) I wasn't even this sad after my MARRIAGE fell apart. And she's crying over a stranger who didn't want a relationship.
So I feel like a shitty friend for feeling that way/saying those things. But honestly, I don't know what else to tell her.

Sorry, that got longer than I expected.

Wrkn925

Mel, that story is awesome.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]Whoops, I guess I should have been clearer about the women I was speaking about being other candidates.  Although I've also been given the side-eye by employees as well, but I suppose that's a little more normal. 
Posted by bltata[/QUOTE]

Okay, this makes more sense then. Thanks for clarifying.

Sorry your ute is being troublesome, Blue. That sucks.

missy68

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[QUOTE]I confess that after last night, I kind of feel like a shitty friend. My bff had her first boyfriend ever early this year (like, Jenuary I think) and it didn't end so well. She was really down about the whole thing, for weeks, almost months.So about 2 weeks ago, she met someone else, and she was happy, so I was happy for her. Well I guess they decided to be exclusive and the next day he told her he didn't want a relationship. I honestly think she moved WAY too fast even after I told her I thought it would be a good idea to take it slow this time around since she moved too fast with the other jerk. So she texts me last night, and I knew she was sad, so we talked about it. I basically told her to stop crying over him, suck it up, and move on. I didn't know what else to say. I just feel like (another confession?) I wasn't even this sad after my MARRIAGE fell apart. And she's crying over a stranger who didn't want a relationship. So I feel like a shitty friend for feeling that way/saying those things. But honestly, I don't know what else to tell her. Sorry, that got longer than I expected.
Posted by sarabear23[/QUOTE]

Sara, sometimes, those words need to be heard. And if you feel like you need to, offer an apology, but still give her the same words in a different delivery. I mean, she needs to respect you, as well. Tell her she's worth more than "one nights" or randos etc. and she needs to find someone who will recognize her true value for what it is.

bltata

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG - Confessions - I Judge : Okay, this makes more sense then. Thanks for clarifying. Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

No problem.  It was my bad.