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Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?

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  • jgeorgopoulosjgeorgopoulos
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    edited May 2010
    My fiance and I have decided we are not having any children at our wedding - of course this includes babies. It is going to be my special day and I do not want a screaming baby ruining it. I know some people might just say "oh its just a baby".. no, that would be awful for me. Trying to exchange vows and having to see a BM excuse themselves cause their child is fussy. Or having children running up and down the aisles.. I was two years old when my parents got married, and that is exactly what I did. If you want your day ruined, then go for it - but babies cry at the most inappropriate times, it is like it embedded in their brains. As long as you are ok with that.

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    We are also going to baby tossing as the cocktail hour entertainment.
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  • nicole_eckertnicole_eckert
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    I wouldn't mind at all if a bridesmaid (or anyone else for that matter) was pregnant at the wedding, but my fiancee and I don't want babies or little kids attending the wedding. The biggest reason is that babies and kids can start crying/talking/throwing a fit during the ceremony or during important parts of the reception. Also, we're having an evening wedding and reception that will run to about 11pm. I don' know too many kids that aren't cranky and tired long before that hour, so it's just not appropriate to have them there. Also, that means that the parents don't really get to fully enjoy the wedding if they have to be chasing around and watching their kids all night.
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  • jeg1221jeg1221
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    It's ridiculous that people are judgmental. It's your wedding. We're having babies, children, toddlers, etc.! But, that might be because my fiance already has three children all under the age of 10 so the ice is broken. I think it adds to the joynous of the occasion to see lots of beautiful children and babies!
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  • farrar_johnsonfarrar_johnson
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    I am SO with you shoegal715 , I actually had 2 of my BM's tell me they wanted to wait to try b/c the didn't want to ruin my wedding by being preg. I told them that they were CRAZY that I would be THRILLED for them if the had a bump in the wedding, and that they HAD to give me a pic with me and the tummy's!!! I don't understand why people would be upset with kids at a wedding!!  There are so many cute options now to keep the kids entertained at the reception, and you could always have a tween cousin or other family member, that wouldn't mind babysitting the younger ones, even if they breathe fire and have laser-beams!!!! LaughingBut to each his own, if you are a no-kid type person or if it was going to be SUPER formal, I could see why you wouldn't want children at your wedding/reception but if you don't mind kids, I saw let em come and enjoy watching the cuties cut loose too!! Laughing
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  • jgeorgopoulosjgeorgopoulos
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:3f63fefd-001c-42cf-bfb4-2366df20d227">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Now, there is a coworker that I really want to invite ... but our venue is 75 people max and we're super-close to that number, and I don't know how to ask her not to bring her 3 kids. *sigh*
    Posted by christyran1228[/QUOTE]


    In my wedding website I listed this....

    "Due to the adult nature of the festivities, we ask that parents find alternative arrangements for their children for the duration of the evening."

    I also said something about funding and we cannot accomodate as many guests as originally intended. There is a nice way to say anything :)
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  • ACCrowsonACCrowson member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:3055394e-a064-4129-a591-1159aebe9fe1">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE] I don't care if they are at the reception, because my cousin's baby screamed during my sister's entire ceremony and no one took the kid out. I'm not down with screaming babies during my ceremony, while I'm trying to marry the love of my life. Not cool.
    Posted by JennaV26[/QUOTE]

    <div>Exactly! no babies at my wedding. I might start screaming from the alter if nobody took the child out. haha!</div>
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  • farrar_johnsonfarrar_johnson
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    oh, and if the kids start acting up and pitching a fit it is the PARENTS who should have enough sense to take them OUT OF THE CEREMONY!! Not rocket science people!!!
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:cdf758a8-ddf0-4983-8be6-88a0eec9463e">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]The other day, I saw the chupacabra running down the road with a baby in it's mouth. It was wearing a tux, so I think he was going to a wedding.
    Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
    My husband was in your town?  Did you say hi?
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    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • goheels05goheels05
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    I'm hoping to give birth on the dance floor at the next wedding I attend.  I've already contacted the producers of "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" and they are going to be there with cameras just in case. 
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    It did, but then he just growled at me because he thought I was trying to take his baby away.
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  • KarenandJonKarenandJon
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    Hmmmm...
     
    No kids at my wedding unless they are in the party (rings/flower girls)...And even these kids will be going home fairly early, as we will be partying and I don't think it is appropriate for kids to see people drinking up a storm at the open bar ... Also parents don't seem to watch their kids and let them run crazy which I don't really want. And as stated above screaming and whining kids during our wedding ceremony is just not cool by me...

    Pregnant...who cares, they just make me look more skinny HA!
     
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    During my wedding, one of the babies got drunk and ended up showing everyone his baby penis. It was not cute.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    He must have been hungry because I've refused to continue to pop them out just for him to eat.  Why should I have to ruin my good figure for his dinner?
    kd.joseph's wish is my command
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    Just call me "Brothel"
    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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    Do his red eyes creep you out? They would scare the hell out of me.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    Only when I wake up in the middle of the night to him staring at me, drooling over my uterus.  Other than that you get used to them.  I'll say I'm growing concerned that he might be thinking of pulling the goose-that-lays-the-golden-eggs-treatment to me.
    kd.joseph's wish is my command
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    Just call me "Brothel"
    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • MrsFrecklesMrsFreckles
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    I personally feel as long as someone will take the child out if it starts crying and won't stop, babies are ok. I myself have a child, she will be 14 months at my sisters wedding and 18 months at my own. My sister asks that she not attend her wedding. I feel that is not right that her niece not be there but as it is her day I did not make a fuss about it. However, at my wedding I feel closely related children are ok (I have two future nieces-in-law) but friends and cousins babies will not be permitted. We have alot of friends and cousins with babies and I think if you put that many babies in one room, one of them is bound to act out. Thats just my view on the subject.
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    Well, I'm setting my sights on the Mothman. He's hot and mysterious in that shadowy monster kind of way.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    This guy was my second choice:
    http://www.cracked.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/bearhound.jpg
    kd.joseph's wish is my command
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    Just call me "Brothel"
    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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    I'm pretty sure that site will be blocked for me, so I'm not going to click on it and I'm going to assume it's Rick Springfield.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    HAHA!  It probably is.  Nope, it's one of the looking creepiest animals I've ever seen.  Cracked compares it to Gozer from Ghost Busters.
    kd.joseph's wish is my command
    image
    Just call me "Brothel"
    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • goheels05goheels05
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    I would have a baby with Rick Springfield. 
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    Just don't bring it to my wedding. I'll feed it to my druncle if you do.

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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    You should, so I can eat it.
    kd.joseph's wish is my command
    image
    Just call me "Brothel"
    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • babbleingbabbleing
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    Imagine, the church is quiet and all eyes are on you and your beloved about to become man and wife.  The priest/rabbi/officiant is asking you to "repeat after me".. then.. WAAAAAHAHHHHAAAHHHH - SCREEEEAAAAACH - SCREEAAAAAAMMMM

    And repeat, repeat, repeat.   Babies have a great knack for being exceptionally loud, especially in large rooms that have a great echo effect.  They goo and gaa and make pretty noises as well, which wont bother or interupt a wedding but most babies don't stay content for long during the process that is a wedding ceremony.  Long waits and restlessness can make for loud, unpleasant interuptions of a moment that is meant to be all about you and the one you love.  

    I don't know if it's rude or not but I would, well before hand, request of your sister-in-law that, should the baby start screaming and crying during the ceremony that she quickly and quietly take him outside for a moment.  I've been to many weddings and it's always unpleasant when a baby starts to wail and it's never short-lived.  One wedding had a bridesmaid whose child started to scream and cry and without a word or look to the bride she picked up the child and took him outside.  It was obviously pre-arranged between her and the bride and there were about 6 to8 bridesmaids so she wasn't missed in the lineup at the alter but I thought WOW, That was GREAT!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:c267f338-d341-479e-ba1a-98b5ac7eb0d5">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Imagine, the church is quiet and all eyes are on you and your beloved about to become man and wife.  The priest/rabbi/officiant is asking you to "repeat after me".. then.. WAAAAAHAHHHHAAAHHHH - SCREEEEAAAAACH - SCREEAAAAAAMMMM And repeat, repeat, repeat.   Babies have a great knack for being exceptionally loud, especially in large rooms that have a great echo effect.  They goo and gaa and make pretty noises as well, which wont bother or interupt a wedding but most babies don't stay content for long during the process that is a wedding ceremony.  Long waits and restlessness can make for loud, unpleasant interuptions of a moment that is meant to be all about you and the one you love.   I don't know if it's rude or not but I would, well before hand, request of your sister-in-law that, should the baby start screaming and crying during the ceremony that she quickly and quietly take him outside for a moment.  I've been to many weddings and it's always unpleasant when a baby starts to wail and it's never short-lived.  One wedding had a bridesmaid whose child started to scream and cry and without a word or look to the bride she picked up the child and took him outside.  It was obviously pre-arranged between her and the bride and there were about 6 to8 bridesmaids so she wasn't missed in the lineup at the alter but I thought WOW, That was GREAT!
    Posted by babbleing[/QUOTE]

    Wow! This is excellent advice. In all 7 pages of this raging bitch of a thread, not one person has expressed it so eloquently. I think you should start your own wedding blog.
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  • goheels05goheels05
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    The way that post started, I thought you were going to sing "I Write Sins Not Tragedies" by Panic! at the Disco. 
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:0576bb1b-5693-4d10-91b4-7ec67bf641e6">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings? : Wow! This is excellent advice. In all 7 pages of this raging bitch of a thread, not one person has expressed it so eloquently. I think you should start your own wedding blog.
    Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
    ::swoon::
    kd.joseph's wish is my command
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    Just call me "Brothel"
    And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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  • babbleingbabbleing
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    Imagine, the church is quiet and all eyes are on you and your beloved about to become man and wife.  The priest/rabbi/officiant is asking you to "repeat after me".. then.. WAAAAAHAHHHHAAAHHHH - SCREEEEAAAAACH - SCREEAAAAAAMMMM   ........And repeat, repeat, repeat with ever increasing urgency!

       Babies have a great knack for being exceptionally loud, especially in large rooms that have a great echo effect.  They goo and gaa and make pretty noises as well, which wont bother or interupt a wedding but most babies don't stay content for long during the process that is a wedding ceremony.  Long waits and restlessness can make for loud, unpleasant interuptions of a moment that is meant to be all about you and the one you love.  

    I don't know if it's rude or not but I would, well before hand, request of your sister-in-law that, should the baby start screaming and crying during the ceremony that she quickly and quietly take him outside for a moment.  I've been to many weddings and it's always unpleasant when a baby starts to wail and it's never short-lived.  One wedding had a bridesmaid whose child started to scream and cry and without a word or look to the bride she picked up the child and took him outside.  It was obviously pre-arranged between her and the bride and there were about 6 to 8 bridesmaids so she wasn't missed in the lineup at the alter but I thought WOW, That was GREAT!   If your sister-in-law is in the wedding perhaps she can arrange it with another guest who is seated to take the baby out should they start to carry-on.
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  • goheels05goheels05
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    Oh.  Well when you put it that way . . .
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