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My entire Bridal Party SUCKS!!

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Re: My entire Bridal Party SUCKS!!

  • plainjane0415plainjane0415 member
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    Maggie0829 said:
    thepowellwedding said:
    youre welcome to dismiss yourself @kat1114

    "Everytime" - why continue to come back??
    For the love of all that is holy please learn how to use the fucking quote button!
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  • thepowellweddingthepowellwedding member
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    Her grammar is not correct! What?!
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  • dcbride86dcbride86 member
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    thepowellwedding said:
    Perhaps- to the "rubber/glue" comment. Clearly its saved for easy accessibility. Guess thats the "joker" card in the deck. FOH
    I don't even know what you're talking about here.  I think it's some kind of joke - maybe about having cards up your sleeve?  I don't know and it's definitely not worth spending time trying to figure out.

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  • thepowellweddingthepowellwedding member
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    You just spent a little time
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    thepowellwedding said:
    Her grammar is not correct! What?!
    You might want to purchase a second grade grammar text book.  I think you'll find it helpful. 


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    thepowellwedding said:
    Her grammar is not correct! What?!
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    mikenberger said:
    thepowellwedding said:
    Her grammar is not correct! What?!
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    Kevin Bacon wasn't in Foot Loose!!
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  • atlastmrsgatlastmrsg member
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    Yeah, there's nothing anyone can say that you want to hear, so you're not going to like any of these replies.  Can't you just go drink some wine and whine to your FI, then put on your big girl panties and move on?
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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    thepowellwedding said:
    Thanks @prettygirllost. I appreciate you at least acknowledging feelings do exist here! It's a hurtful feeling whether you "should" expect it or not.

    The responses falsely imply anger. It's disappointment, not anger.


    I think a few other people also basically said that it's a bummer, though.

    The title of your OP makes it sound like you are angry at your friends, not merely disappointed.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    novella1186 said:
    thepowellwedding said:
    Maggie0829 said:
    thepowellwedding said:
    I posed the question so I can't troll responses directed to myself.... However, she can troll responses directed towards me!
    I figure this is directed towards me.

    I am certainly not a troll.  You however, I think are, thus the troll spray.- Run-on sentence Actually not a run-on sentence because "thus the troll spay" is a clause and not a complete sentence on it's own, which is why we see the appropriate use of commas present in order to join that clause to the preceding sentence The more you respond, the less sense you are making.  It almost seems like you have given (giving) No, given was actually correct there. Giving would make no sense whatsoever. She is using it in past tense, thus why she add "have." You have given up. You have giving up is total gibberish. I'm a writer with a degree in writing and English. I speak the truth. up on basic sentence structures and grammar.

    Come back when you're relevant!




    OMFG am I in English class?!

    I honestly have no idea what any of that means ><  I hope there's not going to be a fucking test :*(

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    edited January 2015
    thisismynickname said:
    Ok, let me try one more time.

    An "arm around the shoulder" is something a friend does no matter what. That's not a bridesmaid duty. Maybe you have more of a friend issue and less of a bridesmaid issue at this point. 

    Seriously. I'm not trying to be mean when I say that. I see my best friend (who was a BM) once or twice a week. We talk about all kinds of things, which is why she's my best friend. If I needed to vent about issues with my hotel block--- issues I personally was dealing with, no one else-- then she listened, because she's a good friend. 

    If your friends aren't even being supportive about wedding stuff--- changing the subject every time you mention the wedding, for example--- maybe you should do some self reflection and ask yourself why your friends aren't putting their arms around your shoulders as much as you'd like them too. Do you talk about nothing else but wedding stuff? Do you ask them about their lives? Are you being a good friend to them?  Take some time to self reflect and make sure at the end of all this that you still have friends. 
    It's a wedding though.  Why does the OP or anyone need support?

    Support is something you need when facing a terminal or grave health diagnosis, when a loved one dies, when you discover infidelity in your relationship, when you need to help hide body. . . people need support to deal with terrible, awful, fucked up shit in their lives.  Planning a wedding should not be described as such nor lumped into the same grouping with the examples I just gave.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


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  • Knottie74816426Knottie74816426 member
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    Hmm, this is a tricky one. I thankfully have an awesome WP that was ready and excited to assist from the moment my FI and I announced our engagement. We didn't want to burden them with a bunch of tasks that would take all their time and weekends. On the other hand, I was thrilled when they offered to assist because hey... what bride couldn't use some assistance!? It was awesome and a huge relief that I didn't have to ask. On the other hand, we've all been close friends since we were in grade school. Had they not have asked (I would have moved on) I would wonder why. I can't lie, I think my feelings would be hurt in some way.

    I've only been a BM once when I was 17 and had NO idea what to do. I googled it LOL. I learned staright up that I wasn't obligated to do anything. I also learned how much work it all is so I just offered whatever she needed. I think an offer would have been nice - but it doesn't mean they dont care at all! Be happy, bride. I'm sending light your way
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  • Knottie74816426Knottie74816426 member
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    I'm also new to this community. Recommended by a friend...

    I'm no mother Theresa but you guys are super mean. Whoa,  I've never seen such nastiness from brides towards other brides!  If these communities are to uplift, support, and advise each other during our process at what point do you start calling "bitches" "trolls" etc?! Are we adults or what?! Geesh.
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    PrettyGirlLost said:
    thisismynickname said:
    Ok, let me try one more time.

    An "arm around the shoulder" is something a friend does no matter what. That's not a bridesmaid duty. Maybe you have more of a friend issue and less of a bridesmaid issue at this point. 

    Seriously. I'm not trying to be mean when I say that. I see my best friend (who was a BM) once or twice a week. We talk about all kinds of things, which is why she's my best friend. If I needed to vent about issues with my hotel block--- issues I personally was dealing with, no one else-- then she listened, because she's a good friend. 

    If your friends aren't even being supportive about wedding stuff--- changing the subject every time you mention the wedding, for example--- maybe you should do some self reflection and ask yourself why your friends aren't putting their arms around your shoulders as much as you'd like them too. Do you talk about nothing else but wedding stuff? Do you ask them about their lives? Are you being a good friend to them?  Take some time to self reflect and make sure at the end of all this that you still have friends. 
    It's a wedding though.  Why does the OP or anyone need support?

    Support is something you need when facing a terminal or grave health diagnosis, when a loved one dies, when you discover infidelity in your relationship, when you need to help hide body. . . people need support to deal with terrible, awful, fucked up shit in their lives.  Planning a wedding should not be described as such nor lumped into the same grouping with the examples I just gave.
    I get needing support when family drama hits the fan (like the poster whose MIL wrote her son out her will for refusing to acquiesce to her demands) or when Mom takes the invitations, photo copies them, and hands them out like candy, but I don't get people who think that they "need support" for things like researching venues, planning, picking vendors, or doing projects.  Nope, those are all on you.  No "support" needed. 


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  • plainjane0415plainjane0415 member
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    Knottie74816426 said:
    I'm also new to this community. Recommended by a friend...

    I'm no mother Theresa but you guys are super mean. Whoa,  I've never seen such nastiness from brides towards other brides!  If these communities are to uplift, support, and advise each other during our process at what point do you start calling "bitches" "trolls" etc?! Are we adults or what?! Geesh.
    I don't think anyone referred to the OP as a bitch. 
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  • Knottie74816426Knottie74816426 member
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    LOL! She was called "bitchy" multiple times. I know. huge difference right?!


    plainjane0415 said:
    Knottie74816426 said:
    I'm also new to this community. Recommended by a friend...

    I'm no mother Theresa but you guys are super mean. Whoa,  I've never seen such nastiness from brides towards other brides!  If these communities are to uplift, support, and advise each other during our process at what point do you start calling "bitches" "trolls" etc?! Are we adults or what?! Geesh.
    I don't think anyone referred to the OP as a bitch. 

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  • Knottie74816426Knottie74816426 member
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    levioosa said:
    PrettyGirlLost said:
    thisismynickname said:
    Ok, let me try one more time.

    An "arm around the shoulder" is something a friend does no matter what. That's not a bridesmaid duty. Maybe you have more of a friend issue and less of a bridesmaid issue at this point. 

    Seriously. I'm not trying to be mean when I say that. I see my best friend (who was a BM) once or twice a week. We talk about all kinds of things, which is why she's my best friend. If I needed to vent about issues with my hotel block--- issues I personally was dealing with, no one else-- then she listened, because she's a good friend. 

    If your friends aren't even being supportive about wedding stuff--- changing the subject every time you mention the wedding, for example--- maybe you should do some self reflection and ask yourself why your friends aren't putting their arms around your shoulders as much as you'd like them too. Do you talk about nothing else but wedding stuff? Do you ask them about their lives? Are you being a good friend to them?  Take some time to self reflect and make sure at the end of all this that you still have friends. 
    It's a wedding though.  Why does the OP or anyone need support?

    Support is something you need when facing a terminal or grave health diagnosis, when a loved one dies, when you discover infidelity in your relationship, when you need to help hide body. . . people need support to deal with terrible, awful, fucked up shit in their lives.  Planning a wedding should not be described as such nor lumped into the same grouping with the examples I just gave.
    I get needing support when family drama hits the fan (like the poster whose MIL wrote her son out her will for refusing to acquiesce to her demands) or when Mom takes the invitations, photo copies them, and hands them out like candy, but I don't get people who think that they "need support" for things like researching venues, planning, picking vendors, or doing projects.  Nope, those are all on you.  No "support" needed. 
    and I get support as being whatever is needed. When someone graduates, attendance is "support". Got a kid playing a game, you go to "support". Sorry dear, support is not limited to being terminally ill. If thats the only time you'll get or give it, I feel sorry for ya!
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