game? you might judge me for this but...?

laurenclaire1386 · November 2009

-I smoke. Cigarettes and weed. Everyday. I'm not really all that ashamed about it and everyone who knows me knows this (including parents/friends/and my dad's mom) No one has a problem with either substance.Ok, and here's the one I'm going to get flamed for. I'm completely prepared to get flamed for this here, because it's going to be even worse when I get home. This afternooon, I have to tell FI that I have $6000 in CC debt. I was really irresponsible for a long time about my finances and kept thinking I could take care of it on my own, without anyone knowing. It's become apparent that I can't. I've contacted a reputable credit counseling agency and I'm getting this all squared away. I lied to FI about a huge issue and now I have to come clean. I hope this doesn't mean the end of my engagement. Flame away.

ScarletGem · November 2009

Beatles, I feel disgusting, too. :-( And the more I get into a funk about feeling pudgy, the less I care to eat better or exercise. It's a vicious cycle! Rach, sorry about your body image issues! You must be very thin, but either way it sucks to feel disgusting...

salt78 · November 2009

[i]Last time he held the boy cat around the corner and said "Look, boyfriend, mommy's even pretty when she pees." Gizmo looked really confused.[/i] Hahahaha I wish FI thought I was really pretty when I pee.

kschwedic · November 2009

I don't shower everyday. It's more like 2-3 times a week. I don't think anybody can tell. Same here. It's mainly because I'm a night-shower-taker, and I usually get too freaked out at night when I'm home alone, so I may miss a night shower and am unable to wake up on time in the morning to take one. Sometimes I tough it out and take a night one, and sometimes I'm able to get out of bed early enough to take one. I don't think it's noticeable, and I'm generally a very clean person. But I think I take about 3-5, not just 2 (not being judgy).I ignore cheerleaders and sports teams trying to raise money for trips out of town. When I see them driving around town in brand new cars at the age of 16, I judge them. They can use their daddy's money and their excess money from their part-time lazy jobs to pay for it if they want it that desperately. I mean, it's not like our stupid town doesn't already give the athletic department a shitload of money anyway.I got really mad at FI today for having the day off, even though I get a day off next week when he doesn't. I always get irritated when he has days off, but it's partly because he won't do anything to help me clean up when he has that free time. I know he's just enjoying it, but I really wish he'd get off his butt. So I get angry with him and I'm not always super nice.

RachNRich · November 2009

FI and I have not had sex in months. I'd venture to say we have had sex less than 5 times in the last year. At first we were all over each other. And now? Well, not so much. I think I didn't like being naked when I gained weight. And he never initiates it, so I don't bother. And I honestly don't miss it. And yet, when I look at him, I think he's gorgeous. But have no interest in sex.

Kati0105 · November 2009

Also, kati, I've gotten to where I go to bed w/o washing my face/brusing my teeth more and more often lately. I feel gross, but that doesn't compel me to get up and do it.I went to an OOT wedding three weeks ago and didn't even realize I had forgotten my toothbrush until Sunday morning, which meant I hadn't brushed my teeth since Thursday night. All time low. Although to be fair I also hadn't been sober since Thursday night.

salt78 · November 2009

I judge people that smoke pot. Especially every day. Probably because my horrible ex smoked multiple times a day and every time we were about to get into an argument, he'd have to get really high first. It was disgusting.

goheels05 · November 2009

Ok. I might delete this though.He cheated on his wife with me about 4 years ago. It was before Mr. Heels was in the picture. We hadn't talked in years, and he found me on FB. Like, made an account specifically to look me up. Initially he wasn't going to tell me about her, but she kept calling, and he confessed and told me that she had cheated on him. I guess it was a revenge thing. Anyway, I didn't care. He deleted that FB account and made a new one. I think his wife knows about me.I'm terrified of running into either of them, or worse, both of them.

cupcake_rampage · November 2009

I have more. This is so freeing!I admit that I have huge insecurities related to how I look. It's kind of ridiculous, because I look around and have found that, even though I'm clinically overweight, I am in general a lot thinner than a lot of other people walking around. This makes me sad for the state of our country, but it doesn't make me feel any less insecure. I lost 20 pounds last month after I had jaw surgery, and I still felt fat. It sucks.Also, I admit to being resentful of my fiance because he is deadly allergic to cats. I know it's not his fault, so I feel bad for being resentful, but I've always had a huge love for cats, and I can't own one anymore and sometimes it tears me up inside. He has in the past said that we could have an outdoor kitty, but that I would have to do my laundry separately - which is BS because I've washed cat hair with his clothes before and nothing has happened.

[Deleted User] · November 2009

I am a manipulator. It started with my mom and now I do it real bad with FI. I know exactly how to push his buttons and I use it to get things that I want. I am ashamed of that. I've recently moved on to my boss, which I am not ashamed of.I also don't brush my teeth or wash my face before bed.

ScarletGem · November 2009

Rach, that's the other thing about feel pudgy. I hate how I look naked, and judge myself, so it's really hard to feel sexy and it's taking a toll on our sex life. Not cool for newlyweds.

mandysmear · November 2009

I haven't been to the dentist in over 2 years. I am terrified of the dentist. It's not because I can't afford it. My company pays for 90% of it. I cry during cleanings. I have a tooth that is sensitive to cold. I have an appointment on Tuesday morning and I am experiencing anxiety over it.

vicmo5 · November 2009

Nebb, I have solved the problem of going out by blaming it on my dog. Give it a whirl. People will think you are nuts, but who cares. I have very serious rules about how many hours she can be left alone during the day and I've made it abundantly clear over the last two years.On a similar note-I hate when people get a dog and think that they can continue to be gone 16 hours a day and then wonder why their dog is naughty. Let's think about this for a second.

mwhitson14 · November 2009

I'm sorry, but I also judge smokers and can't stand to be around them, even my brother. I am so allergic to cigarette smoke, my eyes water and I start sneezing and if it's really thick, I itch horribly.Ditto on whoever said something about going a week or two without sex, I'm the same way.

Kati0105 · November 2009

Ok, and here's the one I'm going to get flamed for. I'm completely prepared to get flamed for this here, because it's going to be even worse when I get home. This afternooon, I have to tell FI that I have $6000 in CC debt. I was really irresponsible for a long time about my finances and kept thinking I could take care of it on my own, without anyone knowing. It's become apparent that I can't. I've contacted a reputable credit counseling agency and I'm getting this all squared away. I lied to FI about a huge issue and now I have to come clean. I hope this doesn't mean the end of my engagement. Flame away.I won't flame you because I've been in a similar situation and know how it can creep up on you. Good luck telling your FI, I am sure that will be a very tough convo but I hope it doesn't end your engagement...

jessjo04 · November 2009

Yeah, my sex life sucks, I feel bad for my own DH.

ScarletGem · November 2009

Oh! And I also usually only shower every other day. I wash my hair on the "off" days if it's getting oily, but usually I'm good to go. J&K - please share?

tidetravel · November 2009

I hate it when really beautiful, awesome people (ahem, Salt) have self esteem issues. I understand that everyone does, and I won't go so far to say that I judge, but really. It makes me want to slap them upside the head and scream "What's wrong with you?! Can't you see how awesome you are?!"

salt78 · November 2009

[i] This afternooon, I have to tell FI that I have $6000 in CC debt.[/i] Don't worry you will be ok. In 2007 I had about $12,000 in CC debt. I consolidated and it's way under control now. If you need any advice, let me know.

smokeybailey · November 2009

I hate how I look naked. 5 years ago I was doing fitness modeling and had a six pack. Now, none of my clothes fit but I can't afford to buy new stuff. I blame myself and that just makes me feel depressed and unenergetic which is not conducive to working out. Plus my estrogen levels are apparently at a "post menopausal" level and that makes me feel even worse about myself.

RachNRich · November 2009

Scarlet--It's weird. I can't explain it--rationally, I know I'm not fat. But--for instance, if I put a pair of underwear on that are a bit to small, and I have a small "muffin top" I freak. I'm constantly referring to myself as a "chubby bunny." Yet I eat dunkin donuts everyday.

laurenclaire1386 · November 2009

Thanks Kati. I can't believe I fuucked myself so badly. I don't think FI is going to leave me over it, but I wouldn't blame him if he did. Conversely, if it were the other way around, I wouldn't leave him. So I'm fuucking terrified and all twitchy and nervous, but actually kind of looking forward to it because I think it'll be a huge load off my conscience.

vallyhoo · November 2009

I don't judge people who smoke, legally or illegally.

Nebb · November 2009

I only recently started brushing my teeth at night because I started to feel like my husband was judging me. I really couldnt be bothered before. I am pretty certain that even though im losing weight, once I am at my goal I will still think I look like crap. I dont think that is ever going to go away regardless of how much weight I lose.

salt78 · November 2009

[i]I hate it when really beautiful, awesome people (ahem, Salt) have self esteem issues. I understand that everyone does, and I won't go so far to say that I judge, but really. It makes me want to slap them upside the head and scream "What's wrong with you?! Can't you see how awesome you are?!" [/i] Thank you. I wish someone hitting me in the head would make the issues go away. Having low self esteem sucks and I'm sure it's never going to get any better.

arbolita · November 2009

I'm definitely going to get yelled at for mine. I've never been to the gynocologist. I always mean to make an appointment but then I never do because I know the doctor is going to just me for never going. That and it skeeves me out.

beatlesgirl25 · November 2009

Actually, washing your hair every other day (or less) is way better for your hair. I mostly just rinse it through most times I shower and it's never been healthier. Laurenclaire, I'm not going to flame you for your debt. But I do have another confession re: debt. I secretly resent the fact that all of our wedding gift money (which was supposed to be our cushion and help fund the honeymoon we don't have planned yet) is going to pay off H's huge credit card debt. It's the most logical thing to do, it just sucks to see it go without ever really having it.

mandysmear · November 2009

I judge H's best friend who is 24 and dating an 18 year old. She just graduated HS in June. If she was 20 and he was 26, it might not be so bad.I've hung out with her. She's not an airhead but you can tell she has a lot of life to experience. She and him smoke lots of dope together every day. I also judge that.

ring_pop · November 2009

-- I can be really passive aggressive. If Bridezillas or RBPB made a show out of me, they would've caught more than a few moments of me telling H, "FINE, then we WON'T have chair covers, we'll just have the UGLY BLACK chairs and our wedding will look TOTALLY STUPID." -- My friend is 28 and, until now, never had a serious boyfriend because (we thought) her standards were too high. Until she recently hooked up with a guy who actually met all of her standards, whom she had lusted after for a good 2 years. H and I were actually aghast... and maybe a little jealous... that her waiting paid off. Buuut... I don't think they're doing very well right now. And deep down, I'm pleased.

beatlesgirl25 · November 2009

Salt, like I said, those women that you look at are thinking the same thing about you. Maybe try to imagine your inner monologue in their head next time one passes you by, and see how it feels to be envied.

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