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Re: Holiday Confessions

  • I confess that I came through Christmas with a whole new sense of irritation for H's grandmother. She spent Christmas Eve with H's aunt and uncle (who nobody else in the family likes, except for her.. since H's uncle is her son who was apparently always a Mama's Boy). H's aunt brought Gma to H's mom's house on Christmas day. She spent the entire day telling us how much better Aunt & Uncle had done with everything - presents, food, you name it.

    Then at the end of the day, we offered to take her home since she doesn't have a license, and she took us up on it. So we spent 10 minutes collecting all of her things, packing them in the car, getting her comfortable -- only to get 5 minutes down the road and have her stop and tell us that she doesn't want to leave yet and she wants us to take her back.

    So, we turn around, take her back to H's mom's house, and she grabs a bunch of stuff out of the back of the car where she was sitting. We got home to realize that she had grabbed a handful of our presents (on top of her own) - and she managed to leave her purse in my car. So on Sunday we drove 30 minutes out of our way to bring back her purse, and see about getting our presents back, only to find her sitting in her room wearing the sweater that H's mom gave me.

    I'm not going to ask grandma to give me back my sweater. But I'm bummed that she took it. And I'm annoyed about everything else. And it's probably very petty of me.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Holiday Confessions : I'm so glad you guys don't seem to think I'm a horrible person - H has been on the computer all weekend so I have had to keep in my frustration until today. I've been sitting at home bummed and thinking you guys were all going to flame the crap out of me for thinking it. I'm still mad at myself for not being more gracious, because normally I'm all southern charm and sweet about such things. But dammit - don't send me pics of stuff I REALLY want and then give me an IOU for a dog we don't need!
    Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

    You're not a horrible person at all.  I'd be pissed off too.  That's just mean.
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  • Why not tell him you'd rather have jewelry?
  • LDY, I think there is a difference between being ungrateful for a gift that someone clearly put a lot of thought into that you just don't happen to like and being ungrateful for something the gift giver knows you don't need after he teased you with pictures of something he knew you wanted.
  • AK, it's your sweater! Ask for it back! I would totally say "Oh Grandma, I think you grabbed some of our presents accidentally the other day - when can we come pick up that blue sweater that MIL gave me?"
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    [QUOTE]I confess that I came through Christmas with a whole new sense of irritation for H's grandmother. She spent Christmas Eve with H's aunt and uncle (who nobody else in the family likes, except for her.. since H's uncle is her son who was apparently always a Mama's Boy). H's aunt brought Gma to H's mom's house on Christmas day. She spent the entire day telling us how much better Aunt & Uncle had done with everything - presents, food, you name it. Then at the end of the day, we offered to take her home since she doesn't have a license, and she took us up on it. So we spent 10 minutes collecting all of her things, packing them in the car, getting her comfortable -- only to get 5 minutes down the road and have her stop and tell us that she doesn't want to leave yet and she wants us to take her back. So, we turn around, take her back to H's mom's house, and she grabs a bunch of stuff out of the back of the car where she was sitting. We got home to realize that she had grabbed a handful of our presents (on top of her own) - and she managed to leave her purse in my car. So on Sunday we drove 30 minutes out of our way to bring back her purse, and see about getting our presents back, <strong>only to find her sitting in her room wearing the sweater that H's mom gave me.</strong> I'm not going to ask grandma to give me back my sweater. But I'm bummed that she took it. And I'm annoyed about everything else. And it's probably very petty of me.
    Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

    Whattabitch.
  • I can't be mad at anyone for any of these gripes... I mean, really, they're all first world problems, y'know?  But you don't have to be thrilled about every gift you get, especially when people are kinda thoughtless... (I would be disappointed, too, LDY).
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  • I know, emily. But not only was she wearing it, but she was all like "oh look at my wonderful new sweater that I got for Christmas!!" when we walked in. I think she honestly didn't realize that it wasn't hers, and she loved it. I would feel so bad.
  • This isn't a holiday confession, but my coworker keeps burping all the time and it's really starting to piss me off.  All the time.  All day long, she does nothing but f*cking burp, and we aren't talking about the quiet, cute little hiccup-burps.  I mean I-just-chugged-a-can-of-pop burp.  And she never says excuse me.  EVER. She's a vegetarian so I don't know if she's not getting enough something-or-another that's f*cking up her digestive tract, but I'm getting really tired of listening to belching.
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  • H's parents we married and divorced twice. Both times the breakups happened over the holidays, so he says that's his reason for not being too "into the whole Christmas thing." I get it. I do. But DAMMIT - we have OUR family now and this was a craptastic way to do our first Christmas.

    It's not helping that my dad and mom keep sending sarcastic texts like "Hey, you chose him over us, now you have to deal with his crappy Christmas presents" (I didn't tell them I wasn't thrilled about his gifts) and "You really need to train him better."

    Thanks for letting me vent, y'all. I think it would bum him out if I told him flat out that I'm not very happy with the way this Christmas went...
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    [QUOTE]I know, emily. But not only was she wearing it, but she was all like "oh look at my wonderful new sweater that I got for Christmas!!" when we walked in. I think she honestly didn't realize that it wasn't hers, and she loved it. I would feel so bad.
    Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

    I definitely wouldn't say anything... she obviously loves it if she was wearing it the next day!  Consider it your gift to her, even though she's a damn thief.
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  • It sucks, but move on LDY. Don't give him more reason to hate Christmas. I was bummed that we couldn't afford to do more for each other, so it's not exactly how I wanted it either. I got an office chair for Christmas. A chair. I'd much, much rather have a dog. I agree that what he did sucks, but you can't let it keep eating at you. And I'm not flaming you btw.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
  • Kiki, I believe technically mine is a second world problem - Chile's sort of between first and third world status :)

    AK, that sucks then. Could you not mention it to MIL as a sort of "I loved the sweater, but Grandma got a little confused and seemed so happy to have it I feel bad asking for it back" and see if MIL will run interference on this one? If only so that your MIL doesn't think you hated her gift!
  • tidetraveltidetravel member
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    edited December 2010

    I confess that everytime I opened FB and saw "Merry Christmas," I thought to myself, "Fuuck Christmas."  I had to stay off the computer for most of the day.  Christmas sucked this year, for a lot of (probably petty) reasons.  Bah-humbug.

    Holy Crap. We survived the first year!
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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    edited December 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_holiday-confessions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec45a3c0-4b3a-4af4-88a4-16051397692cPost:f11b2e8a-fc9e-46c6-b1d9-877bcacc6fbb">Re: Holiday Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]H's parents we married and divorced twice. Both times the breakups happened over the holidays, so he says that's his reason for not being too "into the whole Christmas thing." I get it. I do. But DAMMIT - we have OUR family now and this was a craptastic way to do our first Christmas. It's not helping that my dad and mom keep sending sarcastic texts like "Hey, you chose him over us, now you have to deal with his crappy Christmas presents" (I didn't tell them I wasn't thrilled about his gifts) and "You really need to train him better." Thanks for letting me vent, y'all.<strong> I think it would bum him out if I told him flat out that I'm not very happy with the way this Christmas went...
    </strong>Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

    But maybe you need to.  I mean, it sucks that he had crappy Christmas experiences in the past, but I'm totally with you when it comes to him being in his own little family unit now.  And if he's going to choose to let some bad experiences in the past dictate how he's going to spend the rest of his Christmases with his wife (and children, possibly) then he's no better than they are because then HIS kids will remember him as the dad that always put a damper on Christmas for everyone else.  My parents divorced and every other X-mas I felt horrible because I had to spend it at my dad's house and my mom would cry when she was sending us off because we weren't spending Christmas with her.  I felt like a horrible child every other year.  But I'm not going to let that ruin all my Christmases with Noodle, because he has nothing to do with that.

    Also, I would totally have said "I don't really think we need a new dog.  I appreciate the thought, but I think it would put a strain on our household right now." 
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    [QUOTE]Hey nugget... **BURP**
    Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

    *Explodes* OMG AND SHE JUST DID IT AGAIN. 
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  • I have to say - and this is not a flame or a judgment - that I'm surprised by how much money some couples spend on gifts for each other. My parents definitely did, so I don't know why it surprises me really, but now that it's my money and my husband, I feel like we'd have to have WAY more money in general to spend hundreds of dollars on gifts for each other. As it is, we do presents, but purchases like a new TV or computer are things we discuss rather than surprise gifts, and fancy jewelry gifts are nowhere to be seen (sadly!).
  • I also hate the fact that I hosted a "day after Christmas" dinner last night for Tony's family and I got yelled at for making lasagna and not roast.  I'm sorry, I didn't want roast.  I know that Mom makes roast every year, but this was my first time having everyone over and my best dish is lasagna.  I don't think I've ever made a roast and I wanted everyone to enjoy their meal.  I also hate the fact that because I had a glass of wine with dinner, FBIL's wife, who I can't stand' did nothing but talk about what a drunk I am.  I had ONE glass of wine!
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  • Nugget, I think we work together.  I have a CW who does the same exact thing.  Then she laughs uproariously, and everyone else giggles and makes "what did you eat" jokes.  Dude.  It's not funny.  It's not cute.  It's rude and disgusting.  I'm so glad to be working from home today.  My dog is four feet away from me barking at the shadows on the windows, and that is less distracting and annoying than a grown woman who takes pride in her belches. 
  • Ours was pretty normal. FI's parents didn't really do alot for us since they are paying for half the wedding. It is weird though that she gets FI and his Brother the same stuff in different colors and gets me and FSIL the same stuff every year. So when one opens something we haven't yet.. we already know what we got.  I want to tell her... its ok if you buy T something and don't buy it for me. Its not a competition.
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  • Ha thanks, LVB. I know, I've definitely gotta move on.

    I still think I should be able to trade the damn IOU for something that I dont have to feed/walk/bathe/clean up after though. =)

    So, I made a chocolate cake with cream cheese icing for Christmas day...dad side-eyed it because it was sorta gangster (I never said I was an awesome cake baker/froster)...so I put sprinkles on it and called it a birthday cake for Jesus. No one in our family (or the family of the friends we went to Christmas lunch with) is religious so we did it up big for Jesus. It was hilarious. We even found like a million birthday candles in my friend's house and put them all over the cake. Sang happy birthday to Jesus and everything. I'm pretty sure we're going to burn in hell for being so filppant about the birth of the lord and savior lol.
  • Yeah, I might mention something to MIL - like you said Emily if only to let her know that I absolutely loved it. The only reason I wasn't wearing it home that day was because the other sweater she got me matched my new pashmina, so I was wearing that one. Hehe.
  • I totally take pride in my amazing, loud burps, but I try to keep it at home.  My husband is such a lucky man.
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    [QUOTE]I got my dad nothing for Christmas.  I was thinking about giving him a card with an invoice for $1400 inside for the money he owes me (he stole it out of my wedding account so he could buy beer). Other than that, Christmas was pretty nice this year.
    Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

    Oooh.  I remember you! I still don't believe he spent that much on beer, buuut that's me.

    Can I just say that I'm f-ing tired of our families not sending us *anything* for the holidays OR for our birthdays?  We live in Europe, not fucking Timbuktu.
  • 1of, that sucks that they were so rude. You're hosting, you make the menu, end of story. And calling you a drunk over one glass of wine is just silly.

    LDY, I love it. That should be a new Christmas tradition in your new Christmas-loving family that you and H are creating :)
  • Haha kiki, H and I have been known to have burping contests. And I win. A lot.

  • Nugs, H claims he'll be better when there are kids to spoil. I hope he's right. He DOES do a lot for the kids we know. He was all about buying stuff for the nephews, aunt's foster kids, and the kids I babysit, just not for me apparently.

    And yes, at the very least I'm gonna tell him that we totally don't need another mouth to feed - even if that mouth is super cute and low to the ground and saggy and wonderful. I'm a basset hound girl, I love them. Our lab is wonderful for now though :)
  • Hey, AK, can I steal your sweater too? K, thanks.

    I totally understand though. I think it'd be difficult to ask an old lady to give my stuff back, even if she is a biitch.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Holiday Confessions : Oooh.  I remember you! I still don't believe he spent that much on beer, buuut that's me. Can I just say that I'm f-ing tired of our families not sending us *anything* for the holidays OR for our birthdays?  We live in Europe, not fucking Timbuktu.
    Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

    Um...so...surprise! I just got your Christmas card back today. Not enough postage. Which is totally lame because I put more than enough stamps on it. The reason it didn't go through? Because it was to tall. It was a true square instead of a rectangle. Stupid. I'm so sorry :(
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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