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Re: Holiday Confessions

  • I lived in a trailer up until my dad got injured, LVB. 
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    [QUOTE]I guess for me, my sisters really are lazy troublemakers, so...  I don't know.  People make choices.  I give those who need help and are going to do good with it a shot, but those who aren't... well, I don't give them a second look.
    Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

    But if you think people suck until proven otherwise, how do you ascertain that they are going to do good with it?
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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    [QUOTE]I lived in a trailer up until my dad got injured, LVB. 
    Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

    It's kinda funny. H is always complaining about how tiny our apartment is (at like 1,000 sq ft) and I think it's a palace! I mean, it has different rooms, 2 bedrooms and a HUGE living room. I'm good. He just can't understand how I don't want more right now. I'm more content and safe and secure than I've ever been in my life. I've honestly never been happier.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
  • Christmas to me means running around like a chicken with my head cut off.

    Sister's ExH was supposed to drop their kids off at my house at 10am, giving us plenty of time to get to BFs family, then drive the hour to my family. (I was delivering kids to help sister out.)

    Sister's ExH was 2 hours late. So, my meticulously planned schedule that was REALLY tight was set back two hours. He did it to get back at my sister, instead, he made BF miss Christmas with his family.  Thank god BFs family understands it's not my fault.

      I hate him.
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  • If they're trying on their own.  If they're not running around for a handout or moaning about how somethin won't work before they've even tried.
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    [QUOTE]At least you've got an obviously awesomely loving H, LVB. Everytime I see your sig pic it makes me feel all gooey. It's really cool that he tries to run interception for you. H would probably just walk away from a situation like that.
    Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

    Oh my gosh, he adores me. I honestly can't understand what I did to deserve him. By interception, he just changes the topics. He knows I don't want her to know everything, so he never tells her to just stop talking about it. But he will pull otu the bean dip without hesitation lol
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
  • Pink, X is very much a daddy's girl, but since the tarantulas came around because H decided they were "ZOMG SO AWESOME!!!!!" he's become the caregiver for the tarantulas and rats and I've gotten the cat and dog, which is totally fine with me. I dont like the t's much, the rats are sweethearts though. Kong toys are pretty much the only things that X doesn't tear up in a day, however, we've also found this toy (clicky) that she's had for over a month and is still in pretty good condition!
  • LDY your not a snob!  Everyone grows up different.  H & I get into heated debates all the time about welfare.  He seems to forget that I grew up on government assistance and not every single person is milking the system.  Sometimes people just need to get back on their feet which my mom did.  My sister & I  have so much more right now than our parents ever did.  It's weird to own a house but my mom & dad do not.
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    [QUOTE]LDY your not a snob!  Everyone grows up different.  H & I get into heated debates all the time about welfare.  He seems to forget that I grew up on government assistance and not every single person is milking the system.  Sometimes people just need to get back on their feet which my mom did.  My sister & I  have so much more right now than our parents ever did.  It's weird to own a house but my mom & dad do not.
    Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

    I really REALLY hate the welfare debate. I'm so beyond passionate about it. I cry from anger from it sometiems.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
  • It's sad to me that so many people DO milk the system though and really ruin it for those people that are on government assistance for the right reasons. 
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  • LDY, I grew up like you. But I wouldn't say that I don't worry about money like LVB's friends. I don't panic over it because we're fine, but I'm very aware that anything could happen, and I would hate to be facing some huge surprise expense with no way to pay it as I sit there surrounded by crap that I blew money on instead of saving.
  • LDY- that is such a cute picture.  I want to kiss that sweet doggy face!  Love him <3

    LVB, I'm glad you're like that... there probably needs to be more people who give people a chance.  I'm a total cynic and it's probably not my best attribute.
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    [QUOTE]It's sad to me that so many people DO milk the system though and really ruin it for those people that are on government assistance for the right reasons. 
    Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

    Agreed.
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    And my upbringing was upper/middle also (although I had divorced parents), and I believe this has taken H some getting used to because it was not so much the case for him. 

    I think he still feels a little awkward at Christmastime with my family because we always go really big with presents. They want to buy him nice things, but he would rather they didn't. I just tell him that he might as well get used to it because they are going to do it anyway, whether he likes it or not, forever and ever.
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  • I didn't even want to post about welfare because I was afraid this thread would turn into a debate. 
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  • Kiki, I'm sure X would love some attention, she never gets any. Honest. She'll tell you that. We absolutely starve her of any affection. It's pretty pitiful. She'll give you big ole' kisses right back too...cause that's how we roll. 
  • I'd rather my money go to the deadbeats that don't need it in order to ensure that those who really do, get the help they need.

    One thing that really bothers me about welfare is that it's not really a workable system. I mean, the free healthcare is AWESOME. Best part abotu it. But the thing is, you get so much a month. You're allowed to have a job and make x amount. If you make more than X, you lose your welfare. But that X amount is no where close enough to live on. It's a total catch 22. *For those that are really trying to get ahead.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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    [QUOTE]And my upbringing was upper/middle also (although I had divorced parents), and I believe this has taken H some getting used to because it was not so much the case for him.  I think he still feels a little awkward at Christmastime with my family because we always go really big with presents. They want to buy him nice things, but he would rather they didn't. I just tell him that he might as well get used to it because they are going to do it anyway, whether he likes it or not, forever and ever.
    Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

    And I'm exactly like your H, Salt. It's a really, really awkward feeling. I feel like there's no way I coudl ever reciprocate.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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    [QUOTE]I didn't even want to post about welfare because I was afraid this thread would turn into a debate. 
    Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

    <div>In general, I think we are a pretty liberal leaning board. :)</div>
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    [QUOTE]And my upbringing was upper/middle also (although I had divorced parents), and I believe this has taken H some getting used to because it was not so much the case for him.  I think he still feels a little awkward at Christmastime with my family because we always go really big with presents. They want to buy him nice things, but he would rather they didn't. I just tell him that he might as well get used to it because they are going to do it anyway, whether he likes it or not, forever and ever.
    Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

    That's how H is. They never had lots of presents under the tree and I think it kinda freaks him out how my family has always had big Christmasses. I think it freaked them out that he barely got me anything. My dad keeps asking if I need more for Christmas (just got a text 5 minutes ago with that...). In fact - my dad used to look at the tree on Christmas Eve and if there weren't enough presents under there, he would go shopping and buy more. Those were unwrapped "Santa" presents.

    H and I had it out a few nights ago because he called me "spoiled" - I didn't like that much.
  • Um, ouch.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
  • ldy, you would think that my dog never gets any attention by the way he acts.  He's such a spoiled little brat.
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  • My dog got HUGE bone from H on Christmas morning. She also had a stocking filled to the brim with treats.

    My stocking had the candy that H's boss gave him in it - complete with the bow she put on it.
  • See, to me, I'd much rather debate how shallow and commercial Christmas is. Case in point, LDYGTR's dad. Not hating on him, but Christmas shouldn't be about who gets the most presents.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Holiday Confessions : In general, I think we are a pretty liberal leaning board. :)
    Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

    Definitely and I truly enjoy everyone's opinion but I figured I ruined Kiki's holiday thread with dog talk and a welfare debate on top of that would put the nail in the coffin. 
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  • I agree with Jawja. Especially the part about being freaked out about the amount of stuff you got. That's just...kind of uncool. 

    Although I do have to say that I think her H was totally doing it wrong by sending her photos of stuff she really liked and then being like TA DAHHH! IOU!!!
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  • I have great timing for using the world spoiled.  lol.
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  • LDY, your H not only gave you pictures of what he would buy but he regifted candy to you?  I don't know if I should laugh or punch him for you. 
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  • Pets are a year round topic! Here is a picture of Oskie opening his stocking! (With H's help of course.)

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    [QUOTE]See, to me, I'd much rather debate how shallow and commercial Christmas is. Case in point, LDYGTR's dad. Not hating on him, but Christmas shouldn't be about who gets the most presents.
    Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

    I totally agree with you! I think he's more kinda worried I'm bummed about my IOU and bath stuff lol. Which I am. But whatever. I'm seeing this Christmas as a reality check. I grew up in an overprivledged bubble. That bubble popped. Dad doesn't like seeing me bummed...I'm his little girl. I married a guy who's not all into presents - it's one of his few drawbacks, but I'll teach him how to be happy about Christmas.
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